THIS IS ISSUED FOR THOSE INDIAN MALE WHO ARE FUELED BY A FALSE-EGO OF BEING BORN A MALE..
Its time you respect and appreciate the woman in your life... your wife!!
The classical indian metro-city males looks to marry an educated working-class girl, whom he expects to be a virgin, and above all takes care of him, his family and at the same time reproduce 2-3 beautiful kids.
So because getting into this deal, have you thought what you have to offer.. And what she has to offer...
Think about yourself, as you get to know what she brings to the table-
She, like you and any other human has grown up with dreams and aspirations...
She, like you or your sister, might have never entered a kitchen as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.
She, like you, who has loved her parents, brothers and sisters for 20-25years before meeting you.
She like you wants to earn money so she can have a sense of self-worth...
She, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all her dreams, aspirations, family and family name, just because she believes in you.
From the time of marriage,
She, is expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in the new circumstances, environment and that kitchen.
She, is expected to make tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day.. what if she has traveled and worked the same as you...yet she is never expected to complain;
She, who is to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to..
She, just like you, who is learning what the meaning of a relationship is... but still has to be a buffer of "taunts" from those around.
She, who like you, is clumsy and sloppy at times.. but pointing fingers at her mistakes is easier as she is supposed to be quiet.
She, who like you, has had her own set of friends since school days, yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities...
she who has the right to drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it...
She, who like you, might have deadlines at work.. but cannot be late from work without a "smart-ass" comment being thrown at her..
She, who prefers to remain quiet, as is doing her level best to make this relationship a grand success by being self-sacrificing...
She, who is supposed to be always perfect, doesn't matter how her body is behaving..
She, who is supposed to take all the burdens of the children, while you sit find faults...
BEING A MAN DOESN'T MEAN JUST SUPPLYING MONEY...
BEING A MAN DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE SUPERIOR TO WOMAN...
RESPECT THE SACRIFICES ONE MAKES FOR YOU..
LOVE ONLY COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING, GOOD COMMUNICATION AND TRUST...
DON'T COMPLAIN OR COMPARE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO PROVIDE UNDERSTANDING, COMMUNICATION AND TRUST...
by,
Dr.Hemant Mittal
website - www.mindmantra.in
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Its time you respect and appreciate the woman in your life... your wife!!
The classical indian metro-city males looks to marry an educated working-class girl, whom he expects to be a virgin, and above all takes care of him, his family and at the same time reproduce 2-3 beautiful kids.
So because getting into this deal, have you thought what you have to offer.. And what she has to offer...
Think about yourself, as you get to know what she brings to the table-
She, like you and any other human has grown up with dreams and aspirations...
She, like you or your sister, might have never entered a kitchen as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.
She, like you, who has loved her parents, brothers and sisters for 20-25years before meeting you.
She like you wants to earn money so she can have a sense of self-worth...
She, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all her dreams, aspirations, family and family name, just because she believes in you.
From the time of marriage,
She, is expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in the new circumstances, environment and that kitchen.
She, is expected to make tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day.. what if she has traveled and worked the same as you...yet she is never expected to complain;
She, who is to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to..
She, just like you, who is learning what the meaning of a relationship is... but still has to be a buffer of "taunts" from those around.
She, who like you, is clumsy and sloppy at times.. but pointing fingers at her mistakes is easier as she is supposed to be quiet.
She, who like you, has had her own set of friends since school days, yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities...
she who has the right to drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it...
She, who like you, might have deadlines at work.. but cannot be late from work without a "smart-ass" comment being thrown at her..
She, who prefers to remain quiet, as is doing her level best to make this relationship a grand success by being self-sacrificing...
She, who is supposed to be always perfect, doesn't matter how her body is behaving..
She, who is supposed to take all the burdens of the children, while you sit find faults...
BEING A MAN DOESN'T MEAN JUST SUPPLYING MONEY...
BEING A MAN DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE SUPERIOR TO WOMAN...
RESPECT THE SACRIFICES ONE MAKES FOR YOU..
LOVE ONLY COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING, GOOD COMMUNICATION AND TRUST...
DON'T COMPLAIN OR COMPARE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO PROVIDE UNDERSTANDING, COMMUNICATION AND TRUST...
by,
Dr.Hemant Mittal
website - www.mindmantra.in
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Thanks for your wonderful post and for expressing the problems of women so well. I sincerely hope that other men follow your example and start understanding women better.
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