"The modern day David vs Goliath"

Just reading some international news, I landed upon an very interesting and motivating piece. 4 Nigerian farmers today sued one of the biggest and strongest MNC's Shell for polluting their farms.

Shell in its typical corporate style has tried to keep the incident low.. But when you compare it with what is happening in India, you don't find much of difference.

I remember an episode from "Satyamev Jayate" where the speakers focused on Multinational companies contaminating our farm-lands with excessive use of pesticides. This makes the land unfertile and useless over a long period of time... but people never saw beyond the instant "money".

Walking through Malls in Mumbai, I get to see thousands of people who compromise on clothes, food or other consumer products that they might not be happy with.. but only a fraction of them complaints about it and demand change....
Others just "adjust" .. because they fear "fighting" against "big company".

A small incident that I experienced a few days ago. I was sitted next to a family, that was out for their "ritual" sunday dinner at the mall's food court. There younger kid, a 15-16yr old teenage boy, was given a 500 rupee note by the father and asked to get some burgers from the burger joint. The kid, jolly went and placed the order. He returned 15 minutes later, with a bunch of burgers and the remaining money.
The young chap seems to have not noticed that, one of the 50 rupee notes given to him was torn from the middle.

The father than asked the chap to use the remaining money and buy some "drinking water" from the nearby stall.
Within 5min, he came back smiling, asking for a replacement to the 50 rupee note.
The father told him to get the note changed from the "Burger joint". As it would be waste of money.
The kid suddenly got all anxious and started giving unwanted explanations to his father.
The father, took the 50 rupee note, and went to the burger joint. As he Asked for a replacement the employee on the counter said, that he didn't give that note.. and he couldn't accept a torn note.
This got the father angry and he raised his voice. For a minute the entire food court stopped to look at them.

The kid came running and got hold of his father, and took him away from there.
His face could tell me how embarassed he was feeling.. I could here how for the next 30min. he kept scolding his father for being rowdy.. and how insignificant is 50 rupees..
The mother joined his father-bashing chants and brought old instnaces when he had behaved the same..
and the daughter was trying her best to join them and at the same time hide her face... she continously taunted how today was the last time she was coming to this mall.. as now everyone would point at her... She prayed that no one she knew saw this so her "public" image is maintained.
The Father, just sat there grumpy and irritated.

I felt bad for the father, because he was fighting for what is right.. he was trying to teach his son the importance of every single rupee..
unfortunately he landed on the wrong foot.

People are loaded with fear... and when you go out to fight for your right they try to pull you back.. Their fear pulls you back..

But remember, if you are on the side of the right.. and even if you fight alone... keep fighting.. and even the greatest giants can be defeated.

After all David did defeat Goliath when everyone told him he couldn't

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For personal consultation, you can contact me at -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker and Counselor)
website - http://mindmantra.in/services.html
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai

My tryst with Hope

Few days ago I was invited by a Gynecologist friend of mine to have a cup of Tea at her clinic. She wanted to discuss some behavioral issues her teenage son was facing.

As driving through Mumbai is really a pain, on the planned day, I decided to couple a few things together. Things just happened faster than I planned and I reached her "infertility clinic", 2 hrs before the planned.

Not wanting to fight the "evening maddening traffic", I thought I would go into her clinic, have an early discussion and leave.
I entered her clinic and found that she was busy in the OT (operation theater), so would take around 1hr to meet me.
The wisest choice was to wait there and enjoy a good cup of tea.

Since by then her secretary knew I wasn't a "patient", the courtesy of waiting in the doctors private cabin with a spread of tea and biscuits was offered to me.

Something prompted me to decline that offer and sit in the waiting area.
There were 6 people... 3 patients and 3 people accompanying them.
I took a few minutes to settle down. Slowly my eyes glanced around.. I had eye-contact with all those seated there. It was amazing, each person's face and aura said a different story. Every persons body, sitting posture and way of talking said a different story... Above all every single person's eyes told a different story.
Among all those differences, there were 2 emotional threads that attached each and everyone of them... Sadness and Hope.

When you look into the eyes and experience the aura of a 30-35yr woman whose only desire is to be a mother, you not only feel... but experience pure sadness...
I remembered my days as a Gynecology intern.. the first time I helped deliver a baby I was so thrilled.. but the real happiness came when I saw the eyes of the mother who took her little bundle of joy in her hands and kissed him on the forehead.
Today sitting there, I could see 3 woman who every second were thinking when would they experience that moment.
The sadness of every single day passing by without that happiness being in the horizon, was killing them from inside. It was like walking into a dark heart, a heart that was struggling to let light be alive.

When you see into the eyes of a plus 35yr old man, whose eyes go moist on seeing small children, you know he is not ready but desperate to experience the bliss of fatherhood.. but destiny is testing his patience drastically.

When you see such pain in their hearts and their minds, you know that its the same pain mentioned within the holy epic of Ramayan, that King Dashrath and his wives experienced.. And that's why every child should be a Ram and Laxman to his parents.

The eyes of a mother who is sitting with her daughter show sadness and helplessness. Having taken care of her daughter and provided her with all.. Suddenly here there is something the mother has no explanation or answer for. She wants to be a grand-mother, but first of all she wants to be a mother who takes care of her children.

I frankly felt like utilizing my waiting time, and help all of them battle this great negative of stress and sadness that was growing like a cancer in their emotional mind.. Unfortunately laws prevent me from trying to change every incidence of sadness I come across.

The flip side of the coin... was the great learning I took from all of them.. It was the power of Hope.

Amulets, Rings, tabeez, big files full of tests and documents.. were just a small physical example of the hope they carried deep in their eyes and their hearts.
Hope is one of the most amazing emotions humans have. The power of belief can actually move "psychological mountains".
It's also one of the greatest weapons that the angel of positivity has against its counter-part negativity.

It was over-powering to feel how those ladies and gentleman wake up every morning with a hope that today we will get a "good news"...
All of them had visited astrologers, alternate healers, "counselors", multiple gynecologists .. every time empowered with hope.. that this time it will "work out".

I have met and treated people who have got into depression because one exam went wrong or one job was lost... but imagine the plight of those couples who every time write the "exam of life" when they seek help of an astrologer, alternate healer, gynecologist or counselor... and every time the result is negative... multiple failures can even destroy the strongest of hopes...But there in front of me were 6 people who sat there with a lot of hope...

I thanked the psychological energy in the universe for giving me this opportunity to be touched by the amazing strength of their Hope.
Its not everyday that you get to experience an elixir that  re-vitalizes you and makes you more humane.
I picked one of the newspapers lying on the central table... and just before disconnecting into the world of the newspaper...
I gave a small smile to myself and the universal energy around me.

HOPE IS A VERY POWERFUL EMOTION... DON'T EVER BREAK SOMEONES HOPE.. DON'T EVER PLAY WITH SOMEONES HOPE.. RESPECT AND HELP CHANNELIZE SOMEONE'S HOPE SO THAT THEY CAN COME OUT OF THE SADNESS AND STRESS THAT ENGULFS THEM.
SPREAD LOVE AND LOVE WILL SPREAD ALL OVER YOU.

Your questions are most welcome at -

email - eksoch@gmail.com

For personal consultation, you can contact me at -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker and Counselor)

website - http://mindmantra.in/services.html
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai

Masturbation Addiction - A very common problem in young and adult?

Statistics say 95% men and 87% women indulge in this activity at least once in their life…between age of 15-28yrs upto 30% get addicted to it… ironically an activity that gives instant pleasure is also one thats vastly misunderstood… Masturbation Addiction


1. What is Masturbation?

Masturbation is the self-stimulation of genitalia or sexual organs to achieve the height of sexual pleasure or orgasm.


2. Is it holy or unholy?

All religions call this an “unholy” behavior patter. Irrespective of it, everyone rich or poor, educated or uneducated, men or women, religious or atheist will try it more than once in their life.
Religions unfortunately end up creating irrational and stupid myths, fear and negative emotions related to it, which confuse an individual… It creates an undue fear that pushes one towards the addiction.
Religions should use scientific knowledge to bring control onto addictions.

Myths like masturbation leads to weakness, decrease in bone density or can cause impotence are completely baseless and proven wrong by hundreds of professional medical studies.

Medically, when performed in a controlled and periodic way, its a very healthy process. It helps to release psychologically stored sexual feelings that are very intrusive and havoc causing inside an individuals mind. This even prevents thoughts of rape or sexual assault and cheating on their spouses from developing.

Like stagnant water, which when kept for many days becomes stale and putrid. Sperms stored inside the testis for long term decrease the fertile nature of the sexual organs. Hence masturbation provides a great mean to release the old and help in development of new.

3. What is Masturbation Addiction?

There is no standard definition for over-masturbation or excessive masturbation. Every individual is endowed with a specific reproductive power.
Masturbation is considered healthy of releasing sexual feelings until it starts hampering your daily life.
When masturbation becomes a habit, it’s performed once every few days. This is a healthy process. But when the thoughts, images and need of masturbation starts to haunt an individual emotionally and psychologically it starts to become an addiction.
Like any other addiction, masturbation addiction once it sets in, leads to lot of physical and emotional complaints.

4. What are the symptoms of Masturbation Addiction?
You are most likely to be suffering from a Masturbation Addiction problem if you have 7
or more of the next 10 symptoms.

1. Performed on daily or for most of the days of a week
2. Masturbation is immediately or next day followed by excessive guilt and sadness.
3. Constant unsuccessful attempts to stop the habit.
4. Even minor Sexual stimulation compels you to indulge in the act. If not done, extreme restlessness, anger or irritation is experience.
5. Productive or working hours of the day are spent thinking about it..
6. Decrease in concentration levels as mind is occupied with stress related to the same.
7. Once the urge to perform is triggered, one doesnt think about the time, place or person he/she is with. He/she just looks for means to perform the act.
8. New and More explicit sexually material is searched and needed for arousal. As older or softer sexual material doesn’t give the same sexually arousing effect.
9. Decreased social interaction specially with opposite gender members, because of the fear of sexually arousing negative thoughts or decreased sexual-confidence.
10. Sleep and appetite disturbance are seen due to the stress levels.
5. What are the harmful effects?
It can lead to behavioral, psychological and sexual effects as:
a. Masturbation in public places
b. Reliance on masturbation as the only way of sexual gratification.
c. Harm or injuries to the genitals.
e. Decreased sexual performance with partner. As masturbation is sought to be only way of satisfaction.
f. Inability to perform action or guilt of performing the same leads to continuous irritability and anger due to the high stress and anxiety levels.
g. Decreased concentration in daily activity as mind is preoccupied with thoughts of the same


6. How to treat it?
You cannot treat it on your own.
Will power is great method to control the desires.. but it leads to irritation and eventually "excess" indulgence in the activity.
The most important thing to battle is the withdrawal effects associated with the disorder.

Its most important to seek help from a sexologist, psychiatrist or counselor in your area.


Your suggestions and queries are most welcome at -

email - eksoch@gmail.com

regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker, Counselor and Sexual Health Consultant)
website - http://mindmantra.in/services.html
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai