Ram - romeo or villain you decide?
Today I met Ram(name changed), a 21yr old college student. He walked into my clinic with his father.Even before we could complete the initial exchange of pleasantries, his father in a very aggressive mood... shouted
"This child has gone mad!!! Just give him shock or something... I am fed up!!! Do something or I will kill him myself"
Just trying to calm his father down, "Sir, calling your child mad doesn't help curing him... secondly I am not a mad persons doctor.. I am a new age neuro-psychiatrist, whose specializes in providing wellness solutions for body-brain and mind issues.. so lets deal with it professionally"
After a few more grunts, the father understood and calmed down. While his son was completely lost in embarrassment and sadness.
I inquired further and his father described why he came to meet me..
"See doctor I have come to meet you because someone told me too... We have taken this boy to our family doctor, to our family astrologer, even taken him to pune to peer-baba... but nothing seems to help... Even I have scolded him and hit him but his mind is completely possessed... he is continuously thinking about a girl... looks as if the girl has done some jaadu-tona on him"
Now love related problems are one of the most common causes of clinical depression... so i started to understand what was going inside brain - mind of Ram... the next piece of information was very interesting... his father continued...
" I will tell you what has happened... 3yrs ago we admitted him to college. Everything was great in 1st year of college. In 2nd year of college, he saw some 1st year junior and had "love at first sight"
He told everyone, that this girl is mine and no one will talk or propose to her.
He initially was very shy of talking to that girl, so he would send messages through some juniors.
One day he saw her talking with a guy from her class.. He got very angry, went and bashed up that guy... He told him if he ever approached her again, he would kill him... That guy got so scared that his parents lodged a police complaint.
Thats when we came to know about this... We thought it was just college "masti" so we let it go...
Then he started following that girl... Initially she didnt notice.. but one day she got really stressed.. She came to talk to him, and in entire public asked him what did he want?
When he said, he loved her and wanted to be her boyfriend...
She rejected and made fun of him..."
He became very sad, but didn't give up...He started sending flowers, cards and chocolates to her... He would never write his name on the same.
The girl initially liked it and she thought someone from her class is sending it... but when she came to know he is sending it, she went to the director and complained about him.
By the end of that year, his marks started to decrease and he spent whole day thinking about her...
as parents we tried to console him... His mother and me, out of parental love, even went to that girls house to talk to her family...Her father made fun of me and we were extremely embarrassed...
He would sit all day thinking about her.. One day he tried to commit suicide by drinking phenyl in front of us..
That day was the first day i Hit him... from that day things got from bad to worse.. He was thrown out of college... That girl got some boyfriend, when he came to know he became furious... he would call that boyfriend and insult him... That guy bought some 10-15 gundas and they gave him a very bad beating... He was in the hospital for nearly 2months... He was thrown out of college... Since then we have been trying everything to help him... but we just don't know what to do.. we are helpless"
I further had an extensive counseling session with Ram... what do you think .. is he a hero or villain ? what would you suggest him?
you can contact me at -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
www.mindmantra.in
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Today I met Ram(name changed), a 21yr old college student. He walked into my clinic with his father.Even before we could complete the initial exchange of pleasantries, his father in a very aggressive mood... shouted
"This child has gone mad!!! Just give him shock or something... I am fed up!!! Do something or I will kill him myself"
Just trying to calm his father down, "Sir, calling your child mad doesn't help curing him... secondly I am not a mad persons doctor.. I am a new age neuro-psychiatrist, whose specializes in providing wellness solutions for body-brain and mind issues.. so lets deal with it professionally"
After a few more grunts, the father understood and calmed down. While his son was completely lost in embarrassment and sadness.
I inquired further and his father described why he came to meet me..
"See doctor I have come to meet you because someone told me too... We have taken this boy to our family doctor, to our family astrologer, even taken him to pune to peer-baba... but nothing seems to help... Even I have scolded him and hit him but his mind is completely possessed... he is continuously thinking about a girl... looks as if the girl has done some jaadu-tona on him"
Now love related problems are one of the most common causes of clinical depression... so i started to understand what was going inside brain - mind of Ram... the next piece of information was very interesting... his father continued...
" I will tell you what has happened... 3yrs ago we admitted him to college. Everything was great in 1st year of college. In 2nd year of college, he saw some 1st year junior and had "love at first sight"
He told everyone, that this girl is mine and no one will talk or propose to her.
He initially was very shy of talking to that girl, so he would send messages through some juniors.
One day he saw her talking with a guy from her class.. He got very angry, went and bashed up that guy... He told him if he ever approached her again, he would kill him... That guy got so scared that his parents lodged a police complaint.
Thats when we came to know about this... We thought it was just college "masti" so we let it go...
Then he started following that girl... Initially she didnt notice.. but one day she got really stressed.. She came to talk to him, and in entire public asked him what did he want?
When he said, he loved her and wanted to be her boyfriend...
She rejected and made fun of him..."
He became very sad, but didn't give up...He started sending flowers, cards and chocolates to her... He would never write his name on the same.
The girl initially liked it and she thought someone from her class is sending it... but when she came to know he is sending it, she went to the director and complained about him.
By the end of that year, his marks started to decrease and he spent whole day thinking about her...
as parents we tried to console him... His mother and me, out of parental love, even went to that girls house to talk to her family...Her father made fun of me and we were extremely embarrassed...
He would sit all day thinking about her.. One day he tried to commit suicide by drinking phenyl in front of us..
That day was the first day i Hit him... from that day things got from bad to worse.. He was thrown out of college... That girl got some boyfriend, when he came to know he became furious... he would call that boyfriend and insult him... That guy bought some 10-15 gundas and they gave him a very bad beating... He was in the hospital for nearly 2months... He was thrown out of college... Since then we have been trying everything to help him... but we just don't know what to do.. we are helpless"
I further had an extensive counseling session with Ram... what do you think .. is he a hero or villain ? what would you suggest him?
you can contact me at -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
www.mindmantra.in
email - eksoch@gmail.com
Now a days people take scenes shown in cinema very seriously and they follow the same in the real lives. Now a days cinema is getting worse and they dont even have the moral responsibility to pass good messages to the people, they just want to make money with woman's flesh. I feel pity on this boy, I think he has not seen the real world outside his mind is so ignorant that what he sees in cinema he believes , weekly counseling by a eminent person like you may save the child.
ReplyDeleteI agree to Mr. Balaji.... What ever we see in movies leave a very deeper impact on one's mind.
DeleteEveryone wishes to get the girl of his dreams as is shown in every movie's end, that hero gets the girl. :)
And everybody is a hero in his own view