How to Leave aside my Laid Back Self?

How to leave aside my Laid Back Self?

This is probably One of the commonest questions asked to me at the Mind Mantra Wellness Clinic...

"I wake up late, how can I wake up early?"
"I plan a lot for the day, but cannot complete my tasks?"
"My memory fails me, I cannot concentrate for more than few hours at work"
"I have an habit of day-dreaming?"
"I am always leaving everything for later. In the end I have more than what I can do"

These are some of the various different disguises in which this question is presented.

So cutting a long story short, What is the solution.
Unfortunately there is no magic wand to change you over-night.
But there is step wise guideline that can help you.

1. What do You want?
Do you really know what you want, or you are just trying to ape someone else.
90% people are just trying to become someone else. It could be their best friend, the guy/girl who always gets applauded at work, the friend who always seems happy and busy.

Stop!!!
The moment you stop copying and try to be original, you are ready for change.

Believe you me, this is the toughest phase of all. Being Original is so difficult for most.
It doesn't happen over-night. And takes a lot of self-determination to do it.

You like it or not, its the only way out!!!

so Pull Up your Socks or keep Complaining life long!!!

(A great movie scene that showcases what I mean to say is... the movie 3 idiots, where after a suicide attempt, Sharman Joshi has gone for a Job Interview.
The interviewer asks him to tone down on his attitude, to which he says,
"16 hadiya tudwa kar, 2 mahine bistar par beth kar yeh attitude aaya hai...Mein apni life ke saat kuch na kuch productive to kar lunga, but mein yeh attitude nahi jaane dunga"

Be Original, get the change in you!!!


2. Once you Stopped aping others, and are more comfortable in your skin. It's time for goal setting.

Parents come and tell me - "we want him/her to wake up early in the morning"...

And I ask-  What after that...

common answer - once he/she is up, kuch na kuch tho karega hi... kamse kam soyega tho nahi.

Frankly very very lame!!!!

Don't think of waking up early in the morning as your goal... Think what you will do after you wake up.

If you want to be productive... start thinking beyond minor goals... and start creating major goals...


3. Fitness -
16yrs of living in India and one thing I have realized, Everyone thinks of themselves as a doctor....

I wonder if it was so easy, I spent 9yrs in vain studying MRI's, CT scans, endless nights at the hospital with patients.... could have just read some articles in the newspaper or on the internet and started medicating and advocating.

Please STOP LIVING IN DELUSION!!!

70% of clients I see, have been negating their problems for years... Under the FALSE BELIEVE that they can cure it...

a. Nutritional Deficiencies
b. Clinical Depression
c. Generalized Anxiety
d. Continuous Fatigue or Chronic Fatigue syndrome
e. Mental Fatigue and Burn-out
f. Back aches, head-aches
g. Sleep Problems
h. Gastric problems - acidity, constipation, etc
i. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
j. Weight Problems - Weight gain, no control on eating, obesity.

1 in every 3 people has one or more of the above.

99% have looked at magazine articles, internet read outs, friends advice to solve the issue....  90% have recurrently failed!!!

STOP FAILING... STOP BEING A COWARD... Do Something for yourself... Seek the right help!!!


4. Being Stupid is easier than Being Human.

A common disease spreading among the society is STUPIDITY...
People have stopped thinking and started following the herd.

A small example -
The ever increasing number of youngsters who spend multiple hours in the gym trying to create a picture perfect body is a very encouraging sign for healthy society. But is that the true picture?
ask them why they are doing it, and 85% people will have one of the following answers -
a. either to impress a boy/girl ...
b. so they become "strong" and no one messes with them.
c. one to have a "Body" which is better than Others.

I wish someone would educated them -

all three answers only reflect the poor self-image and the high inferiority complex these guys and girls carry in their subconscious mind.


1. a great relationship doesn't depend on your physical attributes...but your mental one.
and if you are just after a one-night stand or a quick sexual encounter... than why cry about need for love and being loved.!!!

2. creating body strength to compete for power is just a show of how much inferiority complex you harbor in your mind.
you don't have confidence on your mind, so seek to do it by your body.

Hope you have noticed that the most powerful people in the world... from the richest and to the most powerful.. bill gates to barack obama...  where never body-builders or power-builders... they where masters of the mind.

instead of having a BOUNCER mentality... and becoming some Brute Force junkie, use that great organ called brain that god has gifted you with... Power, fame and money will all be yours.

3. wanting a "body" better than others... is a classical example of body dysmorphic disorder... or a dangerous psychiatric disorder in which an individual is obsessed with having the picture perfect body... such individuals are so easily manipulated at jobs, by friends and by society that they land up complaining and crying.


You can leave the laid back attitude and become a very productive individual... Just accept and prepare yourself for the change..


for any further discussion, feel free to contact me through email

Dr.Hemant Mittal
email - eksoch@gmail.com
website - www.mindmantra.in