Adjustment Problems!!!



"A STRESS FREE LIFE"

That's the answer I get every time I ask a patient his/her expectations in life. The deeper meaning of this statement surely translates into a huge umbrella that covers everything from unlimited source of money to the power of convincing everyone to follow their set of rules.

So is it possible to have a stress free life?

The answer is YES for 1% of the population and NO for 99%. 

A good number of people whom I help in this quest for "stress free life" are those who are psychologically entrapped into a fight with "Adjustment". They are not mad or they don't have behavioral problems, still they require counseling and goal-setting sessions because of "adjustment". 

So why am I shouting so loud about "ADJUSTMENT" and the RED FLAG? 

Why do I say that 99% people cannot live a stress free life?

Adjustment can be defined as a physical, social, financial and psychological moulding of an individual to his/her surroundings. It also in many cases means lowering of your ego and accepting being insulted. 
The reason 1% people can be stress free in life, because they are genetically equipped with this great ability to adapt to their surroundings. 
Look at your surroundings and you'll see what I mean. 
How many times have you met a tele-caller who is happy after being abused on the phone?
How many times have you met a man/woman who is happier in a lower paying and lower ranked job than his/her previous job?
How many times have you met a house-wife who is happier living in a house where her husband cannot provide for her needs?
How many times have you met a student who is happy having no friends when a couple of months ago he/she was high among the popularity ratings.

Life is not even faced or a up-swing graph. Success is more about battling your low phases than enjoying your highs. The biggest problem while battling your low phases is "comparison". 

Comparing yourself with Older times, with other people, with unknown people, with imaginable situations. Comparing yourself with anything that makes you feel sad, makes it tougher to adjust in a situation.

Be it a new job, new house, getting married, a new boss, a new country... the uncertainty of it being better than you previous situation is always there. And this gives rise to adjustment issues. 

99% who fail to adjust normally show three or more of the following emotional patterns:

1. High restlessness with constant comparison with others.
2. Increased need to be away from family, friends and society. Increased need to be alone so that others might not see the emotional battle they are fighting while adjusting.
3. Mood swings. Extreme levels of happiness, sadness, irritation or anger which is normally followed by a brief period of guilt.
4. Increasing irritation and anger which is normally taken out on those who are at lower ranks or who will not retaliate back.
5.  Decreased sexual needs and sexual pleasure. Pleasure chemical produced by brain is used up to battle sadness and mood swings, leading to decreased sexual needs.
6. A constant need to change the situation, but eventually landing up within the same troubling emotional zone.
7. constant formulations of new plans, with high restlessness to enact on any of them.

If you fall into the 99% then the you know that the ladder is upscale but attainable. You have something the 1% doesn't is the desire to achieve. And if you are able to utilize your potential in the right way you will achieve whatever you want.
Sometimes to unlock this potential and help free yourself from this "adjustment" web, you might more than just your family and friends counseling you. You might need a professional approach that will work like a knife that will lead you towards the right path.

It's your choice to be happy or not. No one will come and give it to you... The earlier you take a step in the right direction the more time you get to enjoy it.



Dr.Hemant MittaL

Motivational Speaker - Mind-Body Healer

(MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))
(Specialize in Emotional, Behavioural, Sleep, Memory, Concentration and Sexual Health)
Contact at -
Email - eksoch@gmail.com
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2 comments:

  1. Nandini AbhilashaSeptember 2, 2011 at 6:44 AM

    i fall into the 99% category,felt gud after reading this article,thank u sir

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  2. AnonymousOctober 18, 2011 at 3:55 AM

    i want to be in that 1 % asap
    :)

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