Today I met a really amazing couple.
Affluent, well educated and who fight like two blood thirsty boxers. They have
very different personalities, which could never find a middle path of
happiness. Today their major issue of discussion was “The Kitty Party”.
The wife had recently been
introduced into “the kitty party circuit”, an exercise the husband wasn’t too
happy with. Naturally interacting with a lot of “like-minded” ladies had left
an impression on her, bringing about changes in her behaviour. This was a major
rebellion against the “controlling” nature of this gentleman, leading to great
fights.
This was an amazing couple to
interact with because I got to analyse the opposing view- points that the
society harbour regarding a very important “female dominated” social exercise
called The Kitty Party.
The Husbands View Point or The Orthodox View Point –
1. A
group of ladies meet up to gossip.
2. Wastage
of time and money.
3. It
gives rise to comparison and increased materialistic desires.
4. Women
discuss sex openly, making it “unholy”
5. It
gives rise to unnecessary rumours that can eventually emotionally hurt someone.
The Wife’s View Point or The
neo-thinker View Point-
1. “Like-minded”
women, who have time and money, get to spend a fun filled afternoon. This
is a refreshing
break from their mundane daily self.
2. Why
should a woman depend on her husband to go out and have fun. When a group of
them can do it together. It’s a symbol of their independence.
3. Interaction
with women from the same social class, helps to broaden the horizon about what
new trends are going on in life.
4. Discussing
about sex is nothing wrong. Women also have desires.
5. Rumours
and Gossiping is an essential. Women do it inside the house, so what’s wrong in
doing it outside.
So when asked to give a verdict on
who is right or wrong, I told them how the science of human psychology views a
Kitty Party:
1. It’s
a great way of increasing social interaction. As most women in a kitty party
are “like-minded” and share common socio-economical backgrounds.
2. It’s
shouldn’t be evaluated as a wastage of time and money, but an investment in
personal development.
3. Every
participant has to be aware that every single lady in that Party, will be
blowing her own trumpet. 95% of the information shared is either hyped or a
made-up lie.
Why is this
important psychologically? Most Kitty parties involve 30-plus ladies. This
group of society are young, dynamic and full of energy. Unfortunately due to
the social pressures they are not allowed to express their personality to the
fullest at home or workplace. A Kitty Party provides them with an excellent
ego-satisfaction platform, where the need for attention, the need for
interaction and the need of expression are fulfilled. This is attained by materialistic,
social and physical preening.
4. Sex
is a basic need. It’s also a topic of discussion that immediately releases
maximum amount of “happy-chemicals” in the brain, in both men and women. Kitty Parties provide great setups to vent out
“sexual anxieties”. It’s a perfect setup
to discuss sex-life, sexual fantasies and sexual adventures without being
judged or without facing social repercussions. If all that sexual anxiety is
left to grow inside an individual, she would naturally become sad and
depressed.
5. Participants
of a Kitty party have to be careful. It’s
obviously not a “intellectual meet” where a group of ladies will be discussing “intellectual
books” over tea. It’s a party.
While one is having fun and laughing, it’s very easy to trigger negative emotions like animosity, jealousy and anger within others. This can lead to some participants using the “umbrella cover of fun and social gathering” to humiliate, spread rumours, expose family secrets and instigate others into dangerous experimentation with drugs/sex.
While one is having fun and laughing, it’s very easy to trigger negative emotions like animosity, jealousy and anger within others. This can lead to some participants using the “umbrella cover of fun and social gathering” to humiliate, spread rumours, expose family secrets and instigate others into dangerous experimentation with drugs/sex.
For any further discussion on the above contact me-
Dr.hemant Mittal
Neuro-Behavioural Consultant,
Motivational Speaker and Wellness Expert
(MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))
Email - eksoch@gmail.com
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Your articles are very informative and insightful. Common sense matters, but easily forgotten, so good refreshers. Thanks for everything you are doing..
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