The Secret to FAME

The SECRET TO FAME




Want to become Famous!

Want People to follow you!

The secret lies in your Mind… The following personality traits are essential for fame.



1. STOP DREAMING and START ACTING

“Shah Rukh Khan has had back surgery and lived in unbearable pain for months”

“Hrithik Roshan has a stammering problem. He spends hours rehearsing dialogues and dance moves”

“Amitabh Bachachan has to regularly visit the doctor and get injections for his intestine inflammations”

“Kareena Kapoor has to dance for hours together to perfect a single step. And when her body is in aching in pain, she has to go act for hours”

What actors, businessmen, politicians, and other fame people never tell you is that FAME DOESN’T COME TO THOSE WHO KEEP DREAMING ABOUT IT.

Keeping your dream always in your heart and mind, do actions that will help you be recognized by people.

If you want to be famous, take the right actions!!!

Do something, affiliate yourself with someone or something or create something that is constructive, newsworthy and meaningful.

Be prepared to work very hard or else forget about it…!



2. BE PREPARED TO SACRIFICE

The higher you move in the ladder of fame, the more fragile your relationships will become. Many times relationships or emotional attachment might be a road block to success.

Be prepared to become self-centered. Prepare to care for only yourself. The moment you let others influence you, your focus will dilute and you’ll never be able to achieve what you want.

Make yourself emotionally tough or else forget about it...!


3. BE PREPARED TO BE CHEATED

Fame is a fatal attraction. The more you get it, the more you want it. Many anti-social elements take advantage of those wanting to be famous and use them for their needs and deeds.

No matter how intelligent, how shrewd or cunning you are, SOMEONE WILL CHEAT YOU.

Be prepared to be cheated emotionally, physically or financially or else forget about it…!


4. SHOW AUTHORITY WHERE IT MATTERS

You don’t become a STAR or a FAMOUS personality over night. So stop bossing your parents, your friends, your servants, workers in malls or anyone who you feel is lesser than you.

Authority should be projected through your body language not by your shouting or anger. No one likes a demanding person around, and you might lose because of such an attitude.

Take fast decisions, and stick by them. Be stern in your behavior, don’t be afraid to ask questions, don’t feel embarrassed, wear your confidence on your sleeve, all this portrays you as an achiever.


5. MAKE CONTACTS

Today is a world of networking. If you don’t know 10 successful people within the industry you want to be famous in, then you don’t have anything.

Having someone as a friend in facebook or orkut is useless!!!

Meet as many people as you can. The more people know you, the higher your chances of a lucky break.
Don't be afraid to make that telephone call or attend that meeting.
Don't be afraid of being humiliated or being insulted. Concentrate on getting a contact.

Make sure you know people from all angles of life. Don’t marginalize yourself to one industry or one type of people only. You never know behind which corner the big opportunity is waiting.


6. DO CHARITY

Helping those who need it always keeps you grounded. Help people for the satisfaction of giving. This teaches you responsibility, how to influence people and how people perceive you.


7. CONCENTRATE ON YOUR SKILL

Everyone is born with a particular skill. Some are great at planning, others at talking, others at politics, others at advertising, etc… Know what you are good at and always concentrate on that. For the rest, have a pool of people fulfill it for you.

NEVER LET THE BELIEVE IN YOURSELF FADE AND YOU WILL ACHIEVE IT


Regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)
Emotional, Behavior and Sexual Health Consultant
Email – eksoch@gmail.com
http://www.mindmantra.in/


Relationships Fail, but its greater Failure when Parents cannot protect their children from it's negativity.



The greatest of all emotional needs for any individual, is the need "too belong" or being associated!!!
Being part of a couple, family, group, society or community automatically instills positive feelings of security, confidence and love.
Its this need "to belong" that gives "family" so much of importance within the social framework. For centuries society has centered around the concept of "family being the main provider for the emotional need of "belonging." 
As society has evolved and a new socio-cultural structure has taken shape, individuals today are fast moving away from the concept of "family satisfying their need of belonging or need of association" to a more open minded approach of "friends,  work, organisations, etc" satisfying it. 
The foundation of the entity called "family" is more fragile today than ever. Difference in personalities, difference in desires, difference in life-styles, more freedom of expression and emotional health issues like anxiety, depression, suspicious, etc are pushing forward for an increased number of divorces or separations of married couples.
Thou a Separation is never peaceful, and it leaves an psychological scar within the individuals involved. The biggest silent suffers of this phenomenon are the children. Unfortunately the emotional tides are so high that parents fail to explain divorce in appropriate terms. Children like adults, never are too vocal about their feelings. Its their behavior that really shows whats going inside their mind. Most children whose parents are going through a divorce,  show initial signs of depression and adjustment problems. Since the parents are trying to sort their own issues, and guided by the social myth of mental health being a self-healing phenomenon, productive discussions about the situation and its future repercussions are never held with the child.  Most of the times it creates an emotional vacuum within the child psychology, which only becomes evident very later in life. 
Thou separation is inevitable in most cases, its important that parents take care of their children during such a period.
Some very important issues that need to be focused on are:

1. Prior to separation, each parent should sit and discuss it with the child. This discussion should be open ended, in which the child is allowed to ask as many questions as he/she wants.

2. A child is very intelligent. But he/she also tends to equate two unrelated things very easily. Its important that both parents have an open line of communication to answer all of the child's questions.

3. A child should be re-assured that he/she is not the reason or fault of the divorce. Many a times during a heated discussion, one parent might use the child as cover to emotionally hurt the other. 90% such discussions are heard by the child, as much to the belief of parents that he/she is asleep or hasn't heard it. Child tend to generalize and perceive the situation in different senses. It's important that a clear clarification is given on the same.

4. A child has to be reassured, that even thou he/she might not live with both parents under one roof, he/she will be loved by both. 
This might not hold true, In some special cases, where there has been an "ugly" separation or one of the parents is suffering from a psychologically diagnosed major personality disorder. 
In such cases the parent who gets the child's custody has to give, show and communicate his/her love for the child at all possible instances. This helps to fill in the love-void created by the separation.

5. As the child grows, his/her needs might fluctuate compared to his/her peers. A single parent has to be extra vigilant to know which needs to indulge in, and which need to be satisfied by the other parent. 
Overtly pampering the child, under the pretext of the divorce, can lead to extreme negative traits development within the child.

6. During the process of separation, don't fight in front of the child.

7. Don't expect the child to understand your emotional, physical and social needs. He/She might understand that only very late in life.

8. Don't openly and overtly criticize the other parent in front of the child. It can create a fear of relationships within the child. which can prevent him/her from getting into any healthy, long term relationship in the future.

9. If you are child is being visited by the other parent, don't interrogate him/her about the visit. Let him/her tell you what they want. 

10. "if life has given you Lemons, make sure your child gets lemonade".... Build Trust with the child, and always focus on positive emotions of life, family and social-structure.

11. Many a times childhood depression, anxiety and adjustment problems can continue for longer than 6months. Consult a psychologist-psychiatrist combination. Both counseling and medications will be needed to help him be neuro-protected from any long term psychological problems.
Medications are no longer just sleeping pills, and they can be very mild dose non-addictive, non-sedative neuro-protectors that help decrease the internal restlessness and help in improvement of behavior and studies.

12. Always be a confident parent in front of the child. Emotional outbursts, crying, mood swings, anger, can be a very big negative force to prevent the child from developing positive personality traits.


regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PG.DPM)
Behavior, Memory, Sleep, emotion and sexual health consultant
Social Neuro-Psychiatrist
www.mindmantra.in
for any further free consultation, email me at - eksoch@gmail.com

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regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)
http://www.mindmantra.in/