Husband Beating - The other type of Domestic Violence!!

As a psychiatrist, on a rough average for every 10 cases of women suffering from Domestic Violence I get too see at least 8 cases of men suffering Domestic Violence!!
The abusing Wife is as an Emotional and Physical Abuser. Her core motive is complete control over the husband and treating him like a "slave".
Here are some characteristics of such cases -
1. Husband gets physically abused - The wife loses her temper on anything expressing it in the form of severe beating and verbal abuse of husband.
2. Isolating the husband from his friends and family by constantly inducing guilt or insulting him.
3. The wife keeps a complete control over activities such as work, socializing and money expenditure.
4. Constantly insulting and making sarcastic fun of husband - privately and publicly. The intention is to make him feel inferior and sad.
5. Make fun of husbands sexual performance or making him perform sex against his will.
6. Wife might over-socialize with her own relatives, friends or have multiple sexual liaisons. Husband or his relatives are not allowed to question her.
7. Continuous legal threats against the husband and his relatives.
8. Wife feeds the children with negativity against husband and encourages them to abuse the husband.
9. All major decisions in the house are taken by the wife, and husband is abused if he expresses his view on the same.
My Mind Mantra on this is - Domestic violence leads to severe depression, anxiety, inferiority complex, destruction of family relationships, physical injuries, sexual inadequacy and suicidal thoughts.
One should consult a psychiatrist and lawyer immediately.
by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal (Psychiatrist)
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Charas and Ganja - the mind Destroyers!!!

Over the last few years, i have seen a very rapid increase in the number of people addicted to Charas and Ganja.

Even single use of Charas, Ganja and/or Weed is known to increase chances of mental health disorders schizophrenia, clinical depression and clinical anxiety by 4-6 times.

There are few points that need to be taken into considerations -

1. People addicted to Charas and Ganja, deny the same.
2. The person tries to unsuccessfully cut it down.
3. Craving is very high and uncontrollable.
4. Recurrent use leads to failure in fulfilling obligations at work, school, or home.
5. Major mental health issues shown by patient are -

a. mood swings with high levels of Irritability, anger, or aggression.
b. mood swings with stages of high Nervousness.
c. increased difficulty in getting refreshed Sleep.
d. weight loss.
e. mood changes between sad/depressed to very happy.
f. Weird thoughts and expressions - out of context.
g. abdominal pain, shakiness/tremors, sweating, fever, chills, or headache.
h. Increased socializing, Being contacted by unknown people and people with bad repute in the society!

Treatment -
3 stage treatment
a. Psychiatric medical care - treatment focus is to strengthen the brain and body against effects of the drug.
b. Counselling to help strengthen personality of individual
c. counselling to help family strengthen their bond.

- Dr.Hemant Mittal

Happy Holi - Health Tips!!

Holi the festival of colors is here. Its a celebration of love and win of good over evil.
Celebrate with all love, here are few health tips to take into account -

1. Swine Flu -

- This year the country is fighting Swine Flu.

- The untimely rains and cold weather of last few days has increased the conditions for its spread.

- Make sure you eat a proper breakfast before starting to play Holi. This ways your body immune system will be better equipped.

- Avoid playing with water, if you are having a cold or flu.

2. Alcohol

- Holi is one of the few days when Alcohol consumption is started very early in the day.

- This means that most people tend to go over-board with the amount of Alcohol consumed.

- Since one is in celebration mode - the effects of alcohol are not seen till they lead to severe intoxication.

- Few Sign and Symptoms to be aware of - severe confusion, unpredictable behavior, unconsciousness, vomiting, seizures, respiration problems, cold body temperature. - require immediate medical attention.

- The best advice would be to Avoid alcohol, as there is nothing called as "controlled drinking" in such occasions.

3. The Bhang

- Bhang is one of the favorite drinks in Holi.

- A derivative of the cannabis family, its one of the main reasons for many people to land up into Emergency Rooms of hospitals

- The most common side effects include - Distorted feeling of self, Feelings of excessive relaxation, Problems with memory, Loss of coordination, Increased appetite, Incessant talking and laughter

- One should be very careful, that even one episode of bhang consumption can lead to excessive anxiety or Post-traumatic stress that present for a long time.

- Adulterated Bhang is known to cause hallucinations - this can have a major side-effect on general mental health.

- Best Advice to avoid bhang completely.

- If you are still willing to try it, then be ready for the side effects!!

4. The Colors -

- Naturally made Dry colours are the best for health.

- Chemical colors when applied to skin - leads to allergies

- Avoid chemical colors going into eyes - can lead to blindness

- chemical colors remaining in the hands - go into the digestive system, leading to gastric irritation.

- you can apply oil or moisturizer over your body before starting to play holi.

5. Mental Health -

- Spread love this Holi.

- Don't use it as a way to take revenge on others.

- Don't feel jealous of others.

- Don't try to sexually harass someone under the pretext of holi.

- Don't have anger..

- Understand its a festival of love and peace.



- Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist -

why woman and men cheat in relationships

Researchers of the Spire Liverpool Hospital found that during physical contact of sexual nature in women produce higher levels of oxytocin, the hormone that binds women emotionally to their partners. 
It is worth noting that this hormone is produced in the same quantities, whether it is a one night stand or a serious relationship.
Now this brings to the point of discussion that - If her partner is not able to "arouse" her raise oxytocin levels, its natural that a woman might look for another partner. 
A woman finds it easier to get emotionally and physically attached to her new partner.
In men, instead, the same stimulates the nervous system to produce more dopamine, the pleasure hormone, and this surge can be very addictive.
The hormone levels fluctuate depending on the attraction, nature of sexual contact and desire for the same.
This brings out the point of discussion that, Men seem addicted to the "physical act". Hence those who are not attracted to their partners or don't find physical pleasure with their partner, might remain emotionally loyal but not physically.
Interesting developments!!!
My Mind Mantra on this - I meet many men and women who are "cheating" on their partners. They find different reasons and explanations for the same. 
They all seem to have guilt, but something in them still makes it uncontrollable to do so. 
Most people show a certain level of control and clarity in mind after proper counselling and treatment!! 
So somewhere the hormones are affecting the minds understanding of reality.. and the mind might need strengthening???
- Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,DPM)
Psychiatrist -

Valentines Day - Hearty - Heartbroken - Heartless!!

Its nearly the end of 14th February or Valentines Day.
The beauty of this day is that its a wonderful teacher.
It teaches you 3 beautiful aspects of Love -

1. Hearty - Today If your loved one fulfilled your expectations, you'll feel super elated. Happiness will take over you and you'll feel like dancing in love.
This is the madness of love - it takes you into a different world.

2. Heartbroken - If your loved one didn't meet or rejected your expectations, you'll feel sad. You'll cry in sadness, heart will be full of pain.
This is the power of love. It takes a second to destroy your mental peace. No matter how powerful, rich or famous you might be.

3. Heartless - If your loved one doesn't care about you, and is enjoying with someone else. You'll become full of anger. You'll become heartless.
This is the devastation of love. - love can give all its power to anger. Anger will blind you, and lead to any extent of destruction.

Remember Love is always present in Hearty, heartbroken or heartless person.. Its just the expression that changes.

Valentines day is a great Teacher... Let its teachings guide you towards growth, happiness and positivity of Love.

written by-
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist -

The Power of - "I Love You"

Its Valentines Day eve. As much as we say that love has to be celebrated year long, everyday of life... Thanks to mainstream media, for a great number of people Tomorrow is the most important day for expressing their love.

Everyone's expression of love should be respected.

So if you are someone for whom Valentines Day is very important, than its also important that you understand the power of - I LOVE YOU.

"I Love you" is a universal statement. A child can use it for this mother, a brother for his sister, a friend for his friend and a lover for his lover.

What does "I love you" mean?

1. Acceptance - you accept someone whole-heartedly.

2. Non-discrimination - you don't compare or measure your love. You give 100%.

3. Commitment - You stay together in good times and bad times. In sadness and in fun.

4. Promise - You give 100% loyalty.

5. Sharing - You open your heart and mind. You don't sharing every part of your life.

6. Expectation - You expect certain degree of reciprocation. (this is variable from individual to individual)

What is the Power of "I Love You"?
When said with 100% emotional strength - "I love you" - destroys your mental boundaries. It makes you psychologically vulnerable. You give another person a complete control over yourself.

In return you get to experience the feelings of ecstasy, euphoria and peace of mind.

KNOW THE POWER of your "I love you".
DON'T WASTE your "i love you"

Love is a continuous celebration..!!


written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist -

Board Exams - Tips for Parents

The board exams are a few weeks away, and stress levels are on an all-time high.
While Children are trying their best, here are 5 tips for the Parents.

1. Expectations - Accept your expectations and don't just say "I just want my child to give his best". It sends mix signals to the child.

2. Ego - Are you associating your child's results with your social image. Think?? are the results so important so that you can socially show-off how "proud you feel". Is it right to do so??

3. Love - will the results change your love for your child??
Is love a business- if your child doesn't get the marks you expect, will you feel cheated or love her less?
have you told your child this?? or does your child feel he will become unwanted if he doesn't meet your expectations?

4. Talk - Is your communication with your child based on commanding and controlling his behavior?. Do you listen to him? To you let him/her talk freely without judging or suggesting or counselling?

5. Detach from the Result. - The most difficult and important thing is for you and your child to detach from the results.
Remember the golden rule - A result can never defines a childs future.
And if you think a single result defines life, then there is a lot of personality empowerment you still need.

Detach yourself from it. Love your child and accept his/her efforts. Celebrate their efforts.

Invest in Love.. and you will get Love in return.

written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist -

Amit vs Vishal

It was a Saturday morning when Amit met Vishal at his Doctor's clinic.
A few hours later they both had dinner together and it marked the start of a beautiful friendship.

They proved to be the much needed relief and support in each others life. Apart from their individual success and wealth, they both share a common bond. They just had 6 months to live. Both were battling final stages of cancer.

There friendship blossomed and 6 months later, they decided to share the same room in their final days on earth.

Just Minutes before his final moments, Vishal asked Amit what was his final wish.

Amit said - "I have spent the last 6 months flaunting off my wealth. I met as many people I could, to flaunt and show-off my wealth. My luxury cars, the grand parties, the expensive gadgets.. I wanted them to be Jealous of me after I died..

If I could make one wish right now, I would ask God for one more day.. as there are still a few people who haven't seen my grandiosity".

Them Amit asked Vishal, what would your final wish be -

Vishal said - "I thank god for cancer. I never realized how amazing life was. The day I got the news about cancer, I was driving my favorite BMW, had my favorite food and wore expensive clothes.. still the the tears kept flowing.

The day I gave the news about my cancer to my family, they shared my pain for 5 days and then got onto thinking about "long term needs"...Last 6 months I have seen people love me, hate me, care for me, pity me and above all want something from me... But beyond all that.. I finally discovered me.. I discovered love for myself. I learned to enjoy my life without caring what others think. Even a day of this freedom, was enough for me..and I got 6 months of it. I am happy with every single moment given to me."

Vishal closed his eys... and took a deep Breadth. Amit knew the moment had arrived. As tears flowed down his face, he suddenly found himself Jealous of Vishal...

Original Story written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist -


Elder Men and Sexually Inappropriate Behavior

Over the last few years the society has become aware of high number of inappropriate sexual behaviors present in the Elderly.

While earlier it was covered and no one talk about it, today its become a reason for world wide embarrassment and/or legal implications.
From Bollywood to latest news, they all focus on elderly men caught in the "Act".

As a Doctor, whenever I treat such a case, the 3 most important questions regarding this are -

1. What is sexually inappropriate behavior?
Any Behavior thats done with the intent of sexual gratification, which doesn't go according to moral rule, legal regulations and is without consent.
Sexually inappropriate behavior can include verbal or physical abnormal behavior. The physical inappropriate behavior includes rape, sexual touching, fondling, disrobing and masturbation.
The verbal include - sexual advances, speech that has very high sexual content and constantly demanding or referring to sex.
2. Why does this happen?
It happens more in Males, but doesn't mean it ain't present in females.
There are many reasons for a perfectly normal adult to develop this type of behavior.
The 3 most common reasons are -
1. Hormonal imbalance due to various medical disorders.
2.  Neuro-Psychiatric diseases like Dementia, Alcoholism, Psychosis, Drug overdose, bipolar mania, Sexual OCD.
3. Very high Ego - This is normally expressed onto those who are "at a lower level in social hierarchy". Egoism blinds the mind. The oppressor feels he/she can do whatever they want with the victim. They feel the fear of their position will make the victim keep quiet.
(common victims are the younger in the family to junior workers at work)
3. Treatment?
- The root cause is looked upon.
- A detailed neuro-psychiatric evaluation is essential part of therapy.
- many patients require MRI-brain among other investigations.
- Medications are the only treatment. Counselling is attempted only after proper course of Medications.

Mind Mantra Message -
When you'll come across such patient, you'll feel disgusted or angry. Beyond all the shouting, yelling and abusing.. the most essential thing is to help them get a cure for their sickness.

- Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist - 

Extrovert vs Introvert - Not Staying at home

1. Extrovert - Life is short and you must gather as many experiences as possible.
You can always stay indoors when you're old.
Introvert - The basic of every experience is gaining peace. If you find peace at home, than why roam around. And if you cannot find peace at home, where would you find it?

2. Extrovert - Weekends are to be well enjoyed. By Wednesday or Thursday you should have at least 2 plans for the weekend.
Introvert - After a tough week at work, it essential to give your mind some relaxation. If you are under the pressure to "make it a perfect" weekend, then you are just running after fun, without actually knowing where it lies.

3. Extrovert - Easily get bored of the same places and always on the lookout for new hangout spots.Conventional is boring.
Introvert - Experimentation means redefining expectations. Specially when one meal or one outing is very important for happiness, then exposing yourself to a greater chance of failure is illogical.

4. Extrovert - Know about all the events happening in and around your city, and adventure out.
Introvert - the greater your choice, the greater your confusion. Instead of your mind just running around trying to experience 10 events without enjoying anyone to the fullest, better to enjoy one event to the maximum.

5. Extrovert - Why spend the weekend sleeping at home. Invite friends and make it merrier.
Introvert - whole week you have been meeting people and getting things done, a good weekend sleep will help bring back your productivity to 100% on Monday morning.

6. Extrovert - Parents and relatives complain that you're never home.
Introvert - Parents and relatives complain that you're always home.

7. Extrovert - You're happy as long as you are out, the minute you step into your home, boredom strikes.
Introvert - Home is where happiness lies.

8. Extrovert - Meeting new people is greater than staying among the four walls of your house.
Introvert - the more people you meet, the more you will be judged and the more you need to "pretend".

MIND MANTRA - Both EXTROVERT and INTROVERT are right in their own contexts.
Excess of any personality type is wrong. Its essential to create a right balance.

At the extremes, the extroverts are at a greater danger of mental health illness like mental exhaustion and anxiety.. Introverts are more prone to depression.

Accept what you are, and how you are. Don't run after something you aren't and don't try to make others into something they aren't.

written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker/writer -

Bottling up Emotions

Psychological Fact - Bottling up your emotions is major cause for developing the habit of chronic over thinking, insomnia &/or depression.

So always vent out your emotions.

5 best ways to vent out your emotions -

1. Speak it out - specially towards those who have hurt you
2. Exercise or Meditate
3. Watch Movies or Listen to songs that encourage positiveness in life.
4. Write or draw - randomly just to express yourself
5. Go out with friends and share it out with them.

5 worst ways of venting your emotions -
1. Increased Consumption of Alcohol/smoking - suppresses your emotions for few hours, later they cause more harm.
2. Playing "politics" or trying to "manipulate" situations - if it back fires will cause more harm.
3. Excessive eating - weight gain and decreased self image
4. Increased watching of Pornography, Masturbation or Sex - attaches negativity to the sexual act.
5. Hurting yourself - cutting self, throwing things, etc. - increases anger.

written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal

Why is Your Trust Broken Again and Again?

I meet hundreds of people every year, who have one single complain - "Why is that our trust is broken Again and Again".

Breaking someone's trust is one of the most cruel psychological harms you can give. Sadly there are millions who suffer this torture multiple times in life.

Here are 4 Personality Reasons why these people suffer again and again -

1. Vulnerability - People who are transparent about their life are the most vulnerable. Transparency means telling your entire life story to someone. This gives the other great power over you.

2. Blame Takers - If you have the bad habit of taking up all the blame on your shoulders, just to keep others happy.. then one day this very habit will provide someone the chance to break your trust.

3. Dwelling in the Past - when you are dwelling the pain of Past "trust failures", you tend to over-compensate, giving too much power to others.

4. Dependency - If you very quickly start depending on someone, its a sign that you are insecure about yourself. Insecurity always leads to fear of losing someone or something - this is easily exploited by "trust breakers".

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal

Spiritual Guys cannot Fuck?

Forwarded by email - 
When it comes to “spiritual guys,” I just can’t fuck ‘em. Or, more precisely, they can’t fuck me.
It’s not that I don’t fuck spiritual guys from lack of wanting. I don’t fuck spiritual guys because they don’t know how and aren’t willing to be fucked themselves.

First, let me define what I mean by “spiritual guy.”
It has little to do with whether or not he believes in God and a lot more to do with what he thinks about his own humanity. Many “spiritual guys” come with a belief that they are “better than” their physical selves and should “rise above” their baser instincts.

I often see this kind of man in “conscious communities.” He’s all about being “heart-centered” and having “slow, tantric sex.” He walks around with a glassy stare, never gets angry, talks in a creepy whisper and greets every hot woman he meets with the ubiquitous “spiritual guy” pick-up line, “Namaste.”

He professes that money is evil, believes that commitment robs him of his enlightenment and prefers eye-gazing over hair-pulling. He is a participant in a kind of “spiritual sexism” that we often see in “conscious communities,” i.e. reaching for the ethereal stillness (masculine) while rejecting the material chaos (feminine).

While I have nothing against heart-centeredness and eye-gazing, a man who prioritizes “higher” virtues ends up disconnecting himself from his lower three chakras and committing the equivalent of energetic castration.

Imagine a car with no engine or gas. No matter how “loving,” “nice” and “sweet” it looks on the outside, without the raw material to fuel it, the car won’t run.

However “spiritual guys,” tend to demonize and negate their own “fuel.” Then they use the name of tantra as a tool to bypass the “nasty” work of being human and try to get laid by pretending that their cocks have magical, healing “spiritual” powers.

Traditional tantra teachings believe that everything is fuel for awakening.
Looking at tantra from an etymological perspective, tan means expansion and tra means liberation. So rather than excluding and rejecting the courser parts of ourselves, we expand and liberate ourselves through alchemy, converting megalomania (third chakra), lust (second chakra) and anger (first chakra) into purpose, desire and power, respectively.

In order for a man to fuck, he himself must be willing to be soul-fucked by Spirit. He must fall on the ground in love with surrender. He must expose and accept every part of himself while in connection with his partner. Only then can he hold a woman in total presence and approval of everything she throws at him. The combination of compassion and animal-power is what pins a woman down and penetrates her to her aching core.

To be fair, a more “worldly” man in our society, i.e. one who is open in the lower chakras and closed in the upper, cannot truly fuck either. His lack of emotional connection, unwillingness to speak vulnerably and dependency on linear scripts of relating prevent him from deeply feeling a woman and earning her trust. His material merits may win him points in the immediate “pick-up” game, but he will lose out in the long-term.

Not to say that every sexual encounter needs to be a step towards a long-term relationship. This is where we women often to lie about their own desire, using the old excuse “I’m waiting for “the one” as a shield against feeling the magnitude of animal hunger that lives within us.

The feminine fable about “the one” is what makes men more apt to don the “spiritual guy” mask. He thinks if he acts humble and nice and safe and “conscious,” he can win the prize (her pussy). But ultimately he is cheating himself (and women) of an opportunity for awakening.

By acknowledging our shame, rage, greed, lust, victimhood, hatred and addictions, we get to know and love the human parts of ourselves and learn to work with these pieces as allies, rather than having these shadow bits secretly run the show and hijack our power.
When we courageously allow our soul-fucked selves to show up sexually, it invites the people we love to expose their blessed and wounded parts and sets the stage for trust, connection and intimacy. 

Then we come to know the true essence of tantra: that there really is no separation and that everything—divinity, humanity, ordinary, mystery, light, dark, earth, heaven—is a vital and necessary ingredient on the spiritual path.

Are you Suffocating your relationship???

A relationship is a like beautiful flower, if you hold it too hard it will suffocate to death. Death of relationship happens when there is no Love left.

Many times you don't realize, but your actions are suffocating a relationship.

Here are 10 signs that your Partners Behavior gives you. These tell that your behavior is suffocating the relationship and immediate action being needed from your side -

1. Communication Gap - This is the clearest hint. And it means serious trouble. If he/she has stopped picking or ignoring your phone calls and text messages. If the amount you talk has decreased then its time for you to analyze and change.

2. Repeatedly complaining about your "controlling" behavior.

3. Increased frequency of Lying - Everyone lies, but when the frequency increases its a Red Flag of danger.

4. Your partner is always giving examples of Single People or other couples.

5. Avoids you - emotionally, physically and socially.

6. Socially - increasingly criticizes you. He/she use humor or examples to complain about your behavior.

7. You argue - with him always asking for space

8. You can feel that your behavior is wrong, but cannot control yourself. You tell this too your partner, and plead for him/her to understand it. But despite all efforts you can feel an emotional distance being created.

9. He/she has become too honest with you. Doesn't think twice before pointing out your drawbacks or negatives. - Personally or socially.

Its important to give space in a relationship. This maintains a certain individuality and keeps a certain freshness in the relationship.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,DPM, MD(mindmantra))
Psychiatrist, Counselor and Motivational Speaker

10 Signs that You need Mental health Help

1. You Genuinely Hate Your Life

2. You are completely Bored with your life.

3. Nothing Excites You… Not even meeting friends, a pay rise, shopping or even sex.

4. You are addicted to and get very irritated if don't get to use one or more of the following - internet, movies, pornography, TV, videos or computer games.

5. Procrastination has started dominating your life

6. You are falling sick more often - your can feel that your immunity has come down.

7. You Don’t Like Your family, friends or Colleagues

8. You Are Under-performing in your daily activities.

9. You are losing hope and increasingly feeling helpless.

10. The last 9 points made sense to You


Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,DPM, MD(mindmantra)
psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker and Counsellor

Love - a SECRET scent

Love is weird.. Its a 4 letter word, but it has infinite forms. It might take the form of responsibility, drama, failures, stress or happiness.

Love is ironic... Its in every single moment of existence, but you experience it only very few times.

Love is a simple truth.. It starts from the depths of your mind, but you search for it externally.

Love is un-affecfted .. With all the sadness, injustice, violence and fear around.. they cannot change the love deep inside of you.

Love has no boundaries.. but you create those boundaries to satisfy your own ego and expectations.

The more you become a slave of you ego, the more distant you go from Love.
The more you become a slave of your expectations, the more distant you go from Love.

Take a moment, detach from everything.. experience the beauty of love in your heart.. let the tears of joy flow.

For Years you have kept Love a secret, let it out..

Right now, experience it.
Right now, live it.

written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,DPM,MD(mindmantra)
Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker and Counsellor