10 proven benefits of Smiling

1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive
Smile is a big attraction factor. People want to meet and know a smiling person.

2. Smiling Changes Your Mood
Next time you are feeling down, try smiling. It tricks the body into Smiling can trick the body into changing the mood.

3. Smiling Is Contagious
When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile lots and you will draw people to you.

4. Smiling Relieves Stress
Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling reduces stress and helps in taking better action.

5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System
Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.

6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure
When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure.

7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin
Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.

8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger
The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don't go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day -- you'll look younger and feel better.

9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful
Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.

10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive
When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.

thanks for reading,
Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
email - eksoch@gmail.com  
Twitter profile link - http://twitter.com/#!/HemanttMittal  

5 reasons why you cannot stop smoking!

Tobacco is one of the oldest and most abused substances known to human kind. A high revenue generating business that stops the capitalist ego of nations all across the globe from labeling it illegal, while it motivates the social ego to try and help those infected by its addiction.

Every 31st May, the World No Tobacco Day, thousands of advertisements flood the market. From hundreds of them explaining the ill effects of smoking, to those providing "instant" cure to the problem. 
If tobacco is a multi-billion dollar industry, the anti-tobacco loby is at least worth few hundred millions..

Well I cannot complaint much, both parties help my cause a lot. As a medical professional who provides services of de-addiction, its good for business to see a lot of people being motivated by such anti-tobacco movements and taking professional help to battle it. 
Unfortunately I know that only 1% of the lot succeed in winning the battle over tobacco. The rest just relent to keep trying. 
A common behavior pattern is observed in 99% people who approach me for tobacco-deaddiction.  They start with sky-rise claims of "motivation, will power and desire to quit the butt". The start with sad stories on how tobacco has affected them. From decreased stamina to run a mile to decreased sexual performance the life-stories vary in all size and shape. A few days into treatment, the euphoria evaporates to push back one into "daily" life and "daily" stress. The "motivation, will power and desire" slowly transform into guilt, which comes out in statements like "I know smoking is bad, i don't advocate it, but as of today I cannot control it...someday I will"

Here are 5 major reasons why most people, even after hundreds of trials cannot stop smoking:

1. Bad advertisement - Most advertisement trying to "Stop smoking" focuses on the future. What might happen inside your body 20years from now? How smoking slowly kills your body?
From my experience in the field of behavior and emotional health, 99% are interested in instant gratification. 
The common psychology is that "If today lighting up a cigarrette helps battle stress, hunger, restlessness, depression, loneliness, etc then what's the harm? The ill effects will be taken care of in the future or once situation in life is more stable"
Unfortunately "future" or "stability" never comes, as life always yields a new stress.

2. Withdrawal Effects - If you are habituated to eat at a certain time of the day, those days when you don't get food within that time, you naturally tend to become angry and frustrated. Similarly when the brain is habituated to a certain amount of nicotine during the day, it gets angry and irritable if it's supply is stopped.
Withdrawal effects, caused by stopping nicotine supply to the brain can range from increased appetite to extreme agitation. Since many a times this is never taken care of, the easiest way to avoid them is to start smoking. 
Since withdrawal effects might be present up to 2months after leaving the substance, the chances of breaking "non-smoking" vows are higher.

3. Sensory Stimulation - The sight of someone smoking, the smell of a burning cigarrette to the sound of lightening a match stick all stimulate the brain to increase the desire to have a smoke by few hundred times the normal. 
Imagine how the sight of a small girl enjoying a cone of chocolate chip vanilla ice-cream instantly triggers a mouth-salivating image in your mind.
How the photo of your favorite dish posted on an unknown blog can trigger an intense desire that isn't satisfied until you finally gorge into the it.
Same is the brain mechanism of smokers.

4. Socializing - Perhaps the biggest achievement of tobacco selling companies is the social integration of smoking. 
"smoke breaks" are one of the most important places for informal meetings with juniors and seniors. Two people smoking in a vicinity, automatically get connected by sense of belonging to a larger community. Thousands stories of Instant bonding over a smoke are a proof of its power.

5. Friends - When a person decides to quit smoking, his/her friends might support the decision, but subconsciously might end up being a catalyst in his failure to successfully quit. Smoking in front or inviting for a smoke makes its very difficult to avoid temptation for someone who is trying to quit the habit.

Will Power is a very powerful force...but from the time of Adam controlling it has been the greatest battle man kind has been battling.
Tobacco Addiction can be conquered without medications only if one is ready to fight the emotional, physical and psychological battles it involves...

Thanks for reading

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.

Living with a body that you don't like

We live in a world where physical appreance can define the levels of personal, social and professional growth an individual will achieve.
This competition to look better than others can affect the mind in a very negative way.
Guys/Girls of sensitive nature can develop a negative self-image and a dislike for their body.
From diet, gym to plastic surgery they might resort to any way possible to achieve a perfect imaginary image of themselves. Unfortunately the more they try the more they hate themselves.
This gives rise to a problem called as Body Dysmorphic Disorder. The following is a video on this topic

thanks for reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.

should women stop wearing mini-skirts after 35

should women stop wearing mini-skirts after 35..

read what fashion designer Neeta Lulla, actress Aditi Govitrikar and Parizad Kolah, actor cyrus sahukar and yours truly think about the same



Why I Cannot Stop Eating???

In the last 6 months.
Do you feel out of control when you’re eating?
Do you eat in secret?
Do you eat until you cannot eat anymore?
Do you eat extremely fast?
Do you eat food even when you are not hungry?
Do you feel guilty, ashamed or disgusted after eating?
Do you feel powerless to stop eating?
Do you have episodes of suddenly eating large quantities of food, followed by a phase of guilt?
Do you think extensively or plan about what you want to eat?
Does eating help you escape from worries, stress, mental restlessness and give you comfort and sense of control?

If you have more than 6 “yes” from the above questionnaire than your LOVE FOR FOOD, has become an obsessive behavior that's coming out of your decrease love for life. The following is a guide to help you regain your happiness.
1. NO, You are not Mad!
Unfortunately whenever a psychiatrist or any other emotional/behavioural healer gets up to speak of a disorder most people shut their brains with the psychological banner “I am not Mad, I don’t need to listen to this” pasted all over their senses.

So before we start I would like to guarantee you that you’re not MAD, but your brain/mind complex is reacting in an extreme sensitive way. Its crying for help through physical actions. 

2. Such a great Love for food or obsession for food is called Compulsive Overeating?
· Compulsive overeating is a maladaptive behavior pattern.
· It normally starts within late adolescence and early adulthood ( between 18-24yrs) and continues to adulthood if not controlled or treated for.
· It’s higher in females than males.
· As the name suggest a person develops a pattern of overeating. What starts with occasional extra nibble of food, slowly grows into a behavioural pattern where eating become uncontrollable.
· A person might eat even if not hungry.
·         Even thou the affected person promises himself/herself to stop eating from next day. The very site, smell or thought of food triggers an uncontrollable desire that is satisfied by over indulgence into food. 

      3.Why Me?
· The most common question people suffering from this problem as is, “why me?” Why have I developed this when none of my family or friends has it.
· Remember I mentioned above that it’s a maladaptive behavior pattern.
· As you know all behaviors are triggered by a thought.
· A thought is produced in the mind, from where it travels and ends by stimulating the brain. Depending upon the area of the brain stimulated a particular behavior is seen.
· When the Mind is exposed to high levels of negativity, stress or restlessness, by natural instinct it tries to counter it by generating positivity.
· Since generation of happy thoughts is not possible without will power, the Mind tries to create this positivity by triggering actions or behavior patterns.
· Of all the 5 senses, the ones that bring greatest satisfaction and happiness are touch and taste.

Henceforth what starts with occasionally eating high calorie food to feel happy, slowly over months becomes the only way to fight negativity, stress and restlessness by the mind.

     4.Symptoms of Compulsive Overeating?

Once triggered this disorder creates negativity in mind and brain. This is experienced by an individual as:

oEmotional symptoms ( 3 or more of the following are present)
  • Feeling stress or tension that is only relieved by eating 
  • Embarrassment over how much you’re eating
  • Feeling numb while eating or doing other activities - like you’re not really there or you’re on auto-pilot.
  • Never feeling satisfied, no matter how much you eat
  • Feeling guilty, disgusted, or depressed after overeating
  • Desperation to control weight and eating habits
oBehavioural symptoms ( 3 or more of the following are present)
  • Inability to stop eating or control what you’re eating
  •  Rapidly eating large amounts of food 
  • Eating even when you’re full 
  • Hiding or stockpiling food to eat later in secret
  • Eating normally around others, but gorging when you’re alone
  • Eating continuously throughout the day, with no planned mealtimes

      5. I tried to Control on my own, but I end up worse?
Once triggered, if tried to control in an unprofessional way, the compulsive overeating leads to withdrawal effects.
The commonest behaviour applied is to stop eating even when the urge arises.
Such behaviour pattern leaves the mind completely perplexed on how to vent out the large flow of thoughts. Eventually leading it to trigger random areas of the brain.
This is experienced as severe emotional and behavioural manifestations as anxiety, anger, mood swings, suicidal thoughts, depression, lack of emotional connect, decreased concentration, decreased sleep, excessive restlessness, etc.

6    6. Cure?
Professional way of handling such a problem:
  • A complete analysis of the personality to find out the areas of stress, negativity and restlessness. 
  • A complete analysis of reasons for generations of such negativity. 
  • Treatment of withdrawal effects
  • Treatment of any clinical problems like diabetes, high bp, obesity, depression, anxiety that has been triggered by this condition. 
  • Once medically fit Mind Training- a guided process to re-train the mind to use less harmful ways of expressing stress and negativity. 
  • regular feedbackm to prevent any relapse.
As a medical professional in the field of emotional and behavioural health, I have already helped hundreds of people detoxify from this problem.

If you want any further help to battle this problem, feel free to contact me at the following,

Dr.Hemant MittaL
(MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))

For any further query, especially regarding Stress, Depression, Emotional, Behavioural, Sleep, Memory, Concentration and Sexual Health feel Free to Contact me at:
Website - www.mindmantra.in
Email eksoch@gmail.com

Similarities in Love

Why a biphasa basu, sania mirza, salman khan and millions of other fall in love with people who have similar characteristics?

great article in paper DNA with my inputs from the same(read and comment)

link is http://epaper.dnaindia.com/newsview.aspx?eddate=5/23/2011&pageno=5&edition=4&prntid=140943&bxid=30528648&pgno=5


dr.hemant mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer - Emotional, Behavioral And Sexual Health Consultant Mind Mantra
email - eksoch@gmail.com

5 behaviors that scare women away - are you indulging in them? (part 1)

If a general survey was done on how many colleges going or young working non-married males in India are dying to have a girl-friend or girl-friends, I am sure the "Yes" would outnumber the "No" by many fold.

It's an open secret that only 10-15 from a batch of 100 get to have a girl-friend or more than one girl-friend before marriage, while the rest keep fantasizing about the same.

Like body language which sends invisible subconscious clues to others about the mind-set of a person, the latest trend in " young relationships in India" is showing that one of the main reasons for young girls/ladies to terminate a relationship or be scared to get into a relationship are the invisible subconscious "pervert" sexual behaviours that their male counter-parts are involved in.

5 such male sexual behaviours that can scare a woman to get into a relationship or can even make her break an existing relationship are:

1. Pornography
Porn is everywhere. 95% men have been exposed to porn at least once in their life. And a great majority of the same keep watching it regularly.

The female brain perceives pornography as negative. Even if some of them might enjoy it in their own privacy, they develop a negative attitude towards guys/men who indulge in such "pleasure watching".

Women have an uncanny 6th sense to know how to either find the "adult" stuff you have loaded on your laptop, cell phone, ipad, etc. Also many might trap you into supplying them with porn material only to create a negative mental impression about you.

In their minds, Subconsciously such men are immediately labelled as "perverts" and are put into the category of "only interested in physical relationships" men.

A few weeks ago I had a case where a young male had consulted me for being in depression after been rejected by the girl of his dreams. In his need to please her, he had gone to all extremes and even supplied some of her friends with porn material, which the girls just wanted to watch for "fun".

It wasn’t surprising that when he proposed to her, she denied saying "how can I trust a man who keeps porn movies in his laptops and even freely distributes it too girls?"

Tip - if you like porn, be intelligent enough to hide it or just delete it.

2. Inappropriate Touching
Testosterone is the male sexual hormone that not only gives men their sexual drive, but is also responsible for a long list of behavioural patterns. Behaviour patterns in which men unconsciously use their bodies in certain ways that many times becomes offensive for those near them.

One such behaviour pattern is inappropriate touching. This can be divided into two parts:

a. Inappropriate touching her - many girls/ladies hate to when guys hug them tightly, grab them by the waist, put a hand on their shoulder, touch their butt, make "inappropriate" moves to touch their bust like suddenly bumping into them or suddenly breaking a bike so their bust can touch their back, etc.
This effect of this is accentuated multiple times if such an act or a similar act is done in public.
Women feel their privacy is being violated by such acts.

A client of mine was fired from work because of a similar situation. A friendly guy by nature, he had no evil intentions and was always tried to be friendly with everyone. He is excessively expressive through his body movements. Hugging other members of his team to express emotions of care and happiness was a normal pattern. Unfortunately he was booked for sexual harassment by a girl who couldn't understand his personality. He was fired with immediate effect, couldn't find another job because of this black remark on his CV and tried to commit suicide for the same.

Tip - be aware of your body movements.

B. Inappropriate touching yourself - many men especially in India have this habit of touching their private parts more often than necessary. While some have no shame of doing it openly in full public view, others specifically do it whenever a girl/lady looks towards them.

In both ways women perceive it as extremely negative.

Tip - You might have a genital fungal infection, get it checked.

3. Past sexual Experience

( watch out for the next part and concluding part of this article. If you like this article kindly comment so I know my work is being read by people.)

thanks for reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))

Motivational Speaker - Mind Trainer –
Emotional, Behavioral, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra.
email - eksoch@gmail.com
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How to express Happiness?

This Video from the 90's, is a great example of
1. celebrate every single happiness no matter how small it might be
2. positivity is infectious
3. being positive is not hard, it just needs a change in attitude
4. don't sit and frown, go out smile and let the world know about it

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM, MBPS, MD(mindmantra))
Motivational Speaker - Emotional,behavioral and Sexual Health Consultant - Mind Trainer at Mind Mantra
email - eksoch@gmail.com

Indian Married Women – A housewife or a homemaker or domestic engineer?

Indian Married Women – A housewife or a homemaker or domestic engineer?

“My daily routine - wake up early. The first task is to prepare breakfast and lunch for my husband and kids. I pack them off to work and school. Come home, take a nap, by the time the children return home I have watched some TV, spoken to a few friends over the phone and surfed the internet. Post evening I get busy in preparing dinner, then my husband comes back, after dinner, we mostly hit the bed.” - Neha, Traditional Indian housewife

If asked to defined an Indian Married women the most common adjectives used are “Nurturing, Self-sacrificing, Frustrated, Lonely”

But perhaps one that captures her presence over millions of years is – invisible.

For ages she was ignored by family members, overlooked by society, sidestepped by elders and dismissed by professionals. The Indian housewife seemed to exist in a curious time-warp, lingering within boundaries, slaving on timeless chores of cooking, cleaning, managing the children, satisfying the husband and smiling for the society.

In actual fact, the housewife is one of the most powerful and profound mirrors of change each society undergoes. Take Britain’s example. With the 18th century’s Industrial Revolution, economic life started shifting to cities and families shrank. The housewife slowly became the manager of a nuclear family. Transmitting middle class values, diligence, frugality and hygiene became the housewives responsibility. Then came the World Wars. Suddenly millions of European men were fighting along the battle-lines. Housewives found themselves working in hospitals, factories and offices. The change was irreversible. When the men returned, they found women no longer content only to clean floors or cook meals. Women wanted to savour the zing of life containing both the domestic and professional. As with subsequent generations of housewives, they have never received an adequate emotional, physical and psychological recognition for this double shift.

But the change itself was enormous, reflected in culture, fashion and public spending. The 1970s brought a bigger change in attitude when the word “housewife” was publically trounced. It got replaced by “Homemaker” which provided more dignity and broader definition to their work. And today there is a shift towards use of the word “domestic engineer” which gives an appropriate recognition and definition for their work.

The Indian housewives story also reflects the enormous changes the nation experienced. The Nineteenth century Bengal led the way with debates over the ideal housewife. Traditional practices like violence, abuse, neglect and sati where questioned for the first time. While men where never to let go of their psychological dominion, writers like Rabindranath Tagore to Munshi Premchand expressed how silently women questioned their place in society and struggle against their limitations.

As the Freedom Movement grew, Mahatma Gandhi understood the suppressed power of the housewife, calling for women to step out of their homes into the struggle. Thousands heeded him, giving up imported cloth for khadi, joining satyagrahas, courting arrest. While their efforts were rewarded with Independence, Partition and its violence of rape, mutilation and abduction was a tremendous step back in their struggle.

After Independence, the middle-class housewife symbolised the values of the Nehruvian mixed economy, notably simple living, high thinking, where education of her children was crucial for progress. The pressure on housewives to conform to a standard tradition continued with no recognition for their effort. The 1980s sowed the seeds for the future. It was the Economic liberalisation through the 1990s that has been pivotal in helping Indian housewife move towards the Indian homemaker tag.

Economic needs and taste of financial independence at younger age motivate middle-class women to move out of the limitations of household chores. Many women today are no longer content being just housewives. The change in social mindset is probably best explained by fashion. Not more than 15yrs ago, a married woman was bound to choose only between traditional sari and salwaar kameez, this has now been replaced by more modern trousers and dresses.

This change in mindset can be seen in post-80’s-90’s housewives who look to give their daughters much more choice than they ever had. From liberal sense of dressing, empowering with greater pocket money, flexibility of communication and in many cases a more open view to sexual freedom and choice of partner.

The neo-Housewives have become a major seat of economic power. From soap operas, to multi-level marketing schemes, to fashion, food and lifestyle stores everyone targets the new Indian homemaker as prospective client.

The picture of change is still moving at a slow place. The problems faced by homemakers from boardroom to bedroom are still never spoken about. Those women confide to work inside the boundaries of “home” are still an invisible face.

Latest brutal suicides where mothers have jumped to death along with their infant children are example that the violence from their dearest hasn’t stopped just changed shape from physical to emotional. Thousands of housewives investing into the share-market and multi-level marketing are a cry for a sense of self-worth.

Female infanticide widely prevalent is still an expression of male-ego that still reflects age old philosophy. A 100km ride away from any major metro city and the Indian women is still lingering between the 19th-20th centuries.

The last 10yrs have been a huge step for the Indian women to move from “housewife” to “house maker”... and there is a great chance that the next 10yrs will help her explore further from “house maker” to “domestic engineer”.

( I was inspired to write this article after reading the Times of India Article - The Indian Housewife BOUDI.BEGUM.BABE. by Srijana Mitra das)

For any further assistance on this topic or any other emotional, sleep, memory or sexual health related issues feel free to contact me at-

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