Inside the Mind of a Killer

On 23rd May, 2013, a killing spree occurred in Isla Vista, California, United States. Starting with a stabbing attack at an apartment, and continuing with a series of drive-by shootings and vehicular attacks near the campus of University of California, Santa Barbara.
Elliot Rodger, 22, killed seven people, including himself, and wounded thirteen others.
Elliot Rodger was the son of a Hollywood director and came from an affluent family.

what prompted Rodger to behave like this?

The one word answer would be - ANGER.

Where did his anger come from - The psychological details available online suggest him to be an individual low on self-esteem, extremely sensitive, who couldn't handle rejection.

It appears that he thought the only way to increase his self-esteem would come from gaining attention from women, being highly sexually active, and showing discrimination based on social status, money, race and appearances.

In many of his online writing, Rodger was found stating -

"Full Asian men are disgustingly ugly and white girls would never go for you... You'll never be half-white and you'll never fulfill your dream of marrying a white woman. I suggest you jump off a bridge."

"How could an inferior, ugly black boy be able to get a white girl and not me? I am beautiful, and I am half white myself. I am descended from British aristocracy. He is descended from slaves."

"In his last video he says - Tomorrow is the day of retribution, the day in which I will have my revenge against humanity... I'm 22 years old and I'm still a virgin. I've never even kissed a girl. I've been through college for two and a half years, more than that actually, and I'm still a virgin. It has been very torturous. College is the time when everyone experiences those things such as sex and fun and pleasure. Within those years, I've had to rot in loneliness. It's not fair. You girls have never been attracted to me. I don't know why you girls aren't attracted to me, but I will punish you all for it. It's an injustice, a crime, because... I don't know what you don't see in me. I'm the perfect guy and yet you throw yourselves at these obnoxious men instead of me, the supreme gentleman."

An analysis of his 140 page "manifesto", which he left behind to as explanation of his actions, gives a deeper insight into the reasons for developing this type of PSYCHOTIC thought process -

1. Parents' divorce - at the age of 7 his parents told him about their decision to divorce. He was shocked, as a few weeks earlier his mother had denied such happening.

2. Admiration for his father getting a girlfriend - He admired his father getting a girlfriend shortly after divorcing his mother. - he thought his father was a superior man, as he had control over woman.

3. Unable to control sexual desires that came with puberty - He envied guys who got attention of girls and felt extremely angry when didn't get the same.

4. He was traumatized by nude images and porn - he couldn't handle watching porn and nude images which his friends would send him. His desire for sex, and altered thought that sex was meant to prove male domination was further substantiated.

5. Unable to handle rejection by Secret Crush - at the age of 13, He was infatuated and had a secret crush on a younger girl. The girl, rejected his advances. This left him marked for life.
Similarly he was rejected by other girls, which gave rise to extreme anger and hatred against women.
He would "stalk" them or follow their facebook profiles and become extremely angry if he saw them being in a relationship or being close friends with another male.

6.His desire to bring "perfectionism" and "righteousness" balance to society - lead him to create an intense desire to get rid of woman. To finish the concept of sexuality. To destroy the concept of love.

7. Jealousy and anger against others, with Constant comparison - he was quoted saying - My orchestration of the Day of Retribution (killing spress) is my attempt to do everything, in my power, to destroy everything I cannot have. All of those beautiful girls I’ve desired so much in my life, but can never have because they despise and loathe me, I will destroy.

MIND MANTRA - The reason for posting this psychological profiling is that there are millions of men and woman who harbour similar degrees of anger in their mind.
- relationship rejections
- religious or moral beliefs of righteousness/perfectionism
- extremely high sexual needs
- jealousy and anger against those who are enjoying life.

India is famous for rapes, acid-attacks and honor-killings that are nothing less than the hideous acts of Elliot Rodger.

Anger can any day turn disastrous.
Recognize what makes you angry and get a cure for it.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

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#SRK is the second richest actor in the world.

You might like or hate #Shahrukh Khan.. but you cannot deny that he is extremely wealthy.

SRK is an amazing example on how to make money. If you are ready to look at this life with love and as a great teaching.. you might end up understanding a lot of things that are stopping you from being rich.

As a psychiatrist when I analyse SRK capacity to make money, there are 9 personality traits of his.. which probably most people never follow -

1. Basic law of Business - Revenue (sales or gross pay) minus cost (expenses) = profit
Invest Every cent - SRK went from sleeping in the bench and borrowing 100 rupees from his friend to having 600 million dollars.

Every cent of his money is an investment for him. He invests it.. be it gifting cars to people or making a movie.. his sees every cent spent as an investment.. and what he can get out it..

2. Never lose sight - If you want to make money, make sure your mind thinks and your body breathes money.
you can attract money only when you desire it.. Most people desire the perks that come with money.. desire money.
If you watch his early interviews SRK was dead honest. He never said he wanted to do art movies.. he always said, he was here to make a good living.

3. Treat your money as a lover who can run away any moment -
SRK started by living in a small apartment and owing a small car. He was open about what he owned and never was shy from accepting he had what he could afford.
Be it his first BMW or his first house.. all his interviews he always said "now i can afford it.. so i will buy it."
He didn't go on splurging money.. he knew money is a lover that can run away any moment.

4. Never let your appetite to make money go away.
Cause the moment you get complacent, money will just start draining away.

5. Work with those who share your hunger to make money -
Be it Aditya chopra who gave SRK DDLJ or be it Karan Johar.. both directors started their careers with SRK..
They both had the same hunger to make money.
Don't work with those who spend half their time conceptualising and thinking... for they will just come out with new ideas.
work with those who are ready to jump into uncertainty and are sure of becoming a winner.

6. Persistence should be your second name -
The easiest thing is to quit. Most people do.
Setback and failures are always going to hit you. Never give up.
SRK went through a really bad patch.. when his movies were nothing better than b-grade entertainment.
He stuck with the industry.. he kept working.

7. Making money is impossible if you delude yourself. -
Of the many people I meet suffering from emotional problems due to financial losses.. majority have a delusion - their work is either to menial for them.. or they keep dreaming of the day they'll be at big position.
Remember no work is less.. and till its making you money.. do it.
I remember SRK was severely criticised for dancing in wedding and attending store openings.. Today every star follows his foot steps..

SRK was visionary.. he knew that making money meant everything to him.. so even dancing in a wedding meant making good money.

He did it.. every drop counted.. .and today its an ocean.

8. Risk where you can -
Do take risks when you can.
SRK invested in KKR.. today they are a force in the IPL
SRK invested in Ra.1 - even a flop, today people love its special effects.
Do risk in your capacity.. Don't risk your entire income.. always look at investing probably 10-15% of your income..
No amount of investment is small.. and every investment is a learning.

9. Understand life is unfair. -
Yes, it’s true. You may be better worker.. a better thinker.. a better person than the guy next door.. But he makes all the money.
Money needs you to walk that extra-mile.
Be honest.. but don't be a fool.
Be good.. but don't sacrifice.




written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)
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Clinic Address - Mind Mantra, 15,
shreeji plaza,
plot-24, sector-25,
opposite seawoods station,
Seawoods (east), Navi Mumbai, Mumbai

Are you Made for Marriage?

Indian society glorifies Marriage as the most important step in the life of an individual.

In my profession I have met hundreds of parents pleading me to counsel their children to get married... Some of the funny and melodramatic statements have been like -
- "Please tell him to marry, this is the last thing I will ask him till my death" - unfortunately a few laters there will again be demands for a grand-child!!!

- "She has gone mad, counsel her.. She doesn't want to get married.. How can one live life without marriage?" - the concept of happiness coming from within was discovered in India, but people seem to have forgotten it.

- "Marriage is essential for companionship?" - unmarried people actually have much more friends than married people have!!!

Just as one shoe size doesn't fit all, Marriage doesn't fit everyone.
Indian society is still evolving. Most marriages still happen out of fear rather than out of love.

There is a need to have someone along for life, for you fear loneliness.
There is need of having someone to have sex with, for you don't have the guts to get into a mutually physically enriching relationship.
There is fear of not being accepted by the society, hence just blindly follow the "moral-code" without questioning it.

While everyone talks about standing upto the world.. The great majority of People are extremely scared and don't have the strength to battle the world on their own.

Marriage isn't for everyone. People who aren't made for marriage, in general have most of the following personality traits -

1. Easily Bored with relationships - If you get easily bored with your relationships, will you able to spend every single day of the next 50yrs with the same person.. Probably after the 2yr you'll just start adjusting.
Many of my patients have been adjusting for years, leading to a lot negativity and anger.

2. You like beautiful/handsome people - the person you going to marry will not be beautiful or handsome for long. In the greatest of possibilities sometime during the next few years you will see them in a hospital with a lot of tubes going into their body.
If you like beautiful/handsome people - you are falling in love with beauty, not with the person.
Such love will very soon fade away.. so will your marriage.

3. Sex - sex is an essential body and psychological need. From a labourer to the most powerful politicians, everyone wants sex. If you like sex, are you ready to have sex with the same person for 50yrs.
Unless you decide to cheat on your partner, you will have sex with the same person and in 99% possibility in the same way. It will become extremely boring after first few years.
If you don't believe me, you can ask most Indian couples - after 7-10yrs of marriage they are all talking about god and karma, for sex is an habitual exercise with no novelty. No growth.

4. Luxuries are essential for you - Until or unless you are highly rich, be prepared to adjust big time. If you like indulge in luxury, marriage will stop you from the same. Be it the going to an expensive salon, or that new iphone or that expensive car or that big house.. everything will some in bits and pieces.
Saving for a rainy day will make you take a back foot, when you really want something.
And the moment you have children, you will go back miles away from spending on luxury.

5. Rediscovering Love - You might fall in love again. With someone else. Than what do you do. Either you cheat or you just suppress your desires. Today your partner might be everything to you, but there is no guarantee tomorrow the situation will be the same. Love requires to be constantly re-invented.
Requires Space. Requires Freedom. Requires adventurism.
Most people I have counselled don't know what all that means and many who have visited me for having "guilt of having extra-marital affairs", have discovered these facts about love only when someone else came in their life and taught it to them.

6. Rigidity - If you are very rigid in your thought process, then marriage is certainly going to be very difficult for you. People change every day. Your spouse will be different at 27, 37, and 47.. not just physically but also psychologically. They will have different desires and expectations.
If you are not ready to change with them.. you are in for a lot of problems.

Every year I meet hundreds of patients who are suffering for they married for the wrong reasons. Marriage isn't hell... but its just the opposite of what they show you on movies. Make sure you understand yourself, because deciding to launch yourself into it.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

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Exam Results leading to Severe Psychological Shock - symptoms and cure

Not getting expected Marks or grades in an exam is one of the major causes of Clinical Depression, restlessness and suicides in India.

As a society we place too much onus on results.
When a child gets less than expected results, his mind suffers a psychological shock.
This shock is further increased if parents and teachers shout, punish or taunt the kid.

In cases of major results like 10,12, competitive exams, the more intelligent or sensitive a child, the higher his/her chances to suffer from severe psychological shock.

The Symptoms in such case are -

1. Mind goes blank - feeling lost.
2. Detachment feeling from parents/surroundings.
3. Environment seems strange or unreal
4. Unreal thoughts or emotions start coming in the mind - excessive fear,
feeling he/she is a failure,
feeling he/she has destroyed parents reputation,
feeling he/she has not a good person
feeling he/she will lead a pathetic life ahead.

5. The mind keeps repeating memories of the result, or of the taunt/punishment given by parents/teachers.

6. Restless mind leads to Extreme irritation or mood swings
7. Extreme anger or behavioral abnormality
8. Difficulty concentrating on small things
9. Tense look on face and body.
10. inability to stop moving or sit still
11. detachment, restlessness and anger - lead to thoughts of running away from home,
drinking or smoking excessively,
thoughts of ending life.

Anyone having more than 7 of the above should be treated as an emergency -

1. immediate psychiatric evaluation to determine specific needs
2. love, care and non-aggressive environment.
3. medications - to decrease the extremely high mental restlessness.
4. professional counselling to help one cope with failure.


those in need can email me at -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

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Man and their obsessions for Cars?

I have a lot of friends who are obsessed with cars and bikes.
From the tyres to the head-lamps anything can give them a "mini orgasm".

Lately one of my punjabi friends was showing off his brand new car. He really got annoyed when some people in the group didn't show the "respect" it deserved.

Its not that women don't love cars.. but in general they aren't so madly obsessed about it as men are.

Why is that Men won't think twice before spending a fortune on their cars??

In men's psychology - a car can signify passion, renewed youth, vigour, and above all a sense of control.

A car-and-driver have an amazing bond, were speed limits, scratches, turning radius, all go down to mean love.

A man who can never remember to tidy up his room, be careless in the use of words in public or don't care for others emotions.. will be a transformed personality when it comes to getting his car/cars checked, painted or repaired.

He might not know what the prices of vegetables and food is.. but he can easily tell you about all the cars, their price range and models.

Its surprising that many men cannot identify the needs of their own child, but can instantly identify what oil or repairs their car needs.

Sigmund Freudian wasn't wrong when he called a men's devotion to cars as an act that satisfied their automatic erection fantasies.
In other words, The car is one female thing that a man can get inside of whenever he wants and it will provide unfailing evidence of his potency in social, financial and physical terms.

This can further simplified to the fact that a car gives a man's conditional love a complete expression. He is in total control, gets social recognition and will never be questioned for his motives.

- Dr.Hemant Mittal

When Sexual thought become fear

While sex is one of the most pleasurable activities in the world.. Sexual thoughts can actually be very fearful for many people.

Moral, religious and taboo regarding sex can make sexual thoughts unacceptable to the subconscious, eventually leading to high fear.

It leads to extreme guilt, shame, hopelessness, and depression.
A person might label himself/herself as deviant, disgusting, or evil.

In my psychiatry practice, I have seen people suffer for years before they consult a psychiatrist. A great majority avoid seeking treatment and always keep "burning in the secret".

Sexual thoughts can make one isolated, anti-social, alone and angry. Many people leave school, their jobs or avoid travelling by local transport or even change their home because of these.

What are sexual thoughts?
Sexual thoughts are of many forms. Their core is related to sexuality, and from there on it can branch out into hundreds of different forms.

The 10 most common ones are -
1. urge to act sexually towards children or animals.

2. Intrusive sexual images of sexual organs or having sexual intercourse with random people.

3. Fear of being homosexual or lesbian - feeling "Attraction" towards same sex person.

4. Desire to expose or touch the genitals/private parts of self or "victim".

5. Attracted to inanimate things and thinking of them sexually. - dolls, mannequins, pens/pencils or even fruits.

6. Attracted to the dead, and images of performing sexual acts with a dead body.

7. Sexual thoughts about God and divine figures.

8. Sexually attracted to siblings, parents, or other relatives.

9. sexual thoughts of sexual aggression - rape or BDSM

10. sexual thoughts regarding pornographic material.

Treatment -
the basis of the treatment is to convince oneself that the thoughts are untrue.
this can be done in following ways -

1. counselling
2. medications

3. medications are initially given to calm and stop the brain from generating these thoughts and subsequently counseling is done to increase ones defenses against the same.

4. meditation helps only after the brain is calm or one is ready to accept these thoughts as intrusive and false.
Many a times only after counseling and medications.. does the brain come to a stage of accepting meditation.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

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The Secret behind The Secret - The myths behind Cause and Effect

One of the greatest beliefs of human kind is that - what you sow, so shall you reap”.

Many call this the “Law of Cause and Effect”, others call it the "law of karma".. others call its the Universal law - " Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us"
One of the greatest laws of modern day.

So is this law RIGHT??

The blunt answer would be NOT IN THE FORM YOU KNOW IT.
For if it was a law, it should hold true for everyone. But does it??

I counsel and treat many patients who haven't done anything wrong in life but still are battling depression and panic.

While I also meet people who have not followed the rules of "righteousness" are rejoicing in happiness.

The answer lies in your understanding and expectations from the law.

Let me make it simpler -

1. The law says - "Whatever you put out in the Universe is what comes will come back to you"

- if you put thoughts into the universe, you will get back thoughts.

most people spend hours putting in thoughts of how rich, happy, and in love they will be.. the universe sends the same thing back.

but your expectation was different... you don't want the thought of owning a luxury car.. you want it physically.

so do the actions for the same, and then let actions come to you.

2. The law says - "Whatever you put out in the Universe is what comes will come back to you"

- you judge, curse and insult people..
you wait for the day you'll have so much money/power that people will be jealous of you.

- but then when you get money/fame/power, people compare you to your earlier self.. you feel angry.. you feel insulted.. cause now you don't expect them to do that.

but the law just returned what you gave in.

3. The law says - "Whatever you put out in the Universe is what comes will come back to you"

- when was the last time you joyfully took responsibility for mistakes you have done.
Your mind is full of anger when asked to apologise.

Its easier to give an excuse than an honest apology.

- you didn't put in an apology.. you put in anger and lack of responsibility.. that will come back in return.

4. The law says - "Whatever you put out in the Universe is what comes will come back to you"

- if you did good for someone, you expect that person too do good for you.

but than the law doesn't know that.

- if you did good for someone, he/she might never do good for you.. but good might come to you from a corner you never expected.

good came back.. but not as per your expectations, so it gives rise to anger and sadness in your mind.

5. The law says - "Whatever you put out in the Universe is what comes will come back to you"

- You are changing every year but you don't realize it. Your taste, your choices, your face, your body.. everything is changing.
But your mind wants everyone to remain the same.

- When you are putting change in the universe, how can you expect it too return you rigidity. It will return you change.

- I remember telling a patient of mine, no 2 relationships are the same. No 2 situations in life are the same.

I can go on and on with a lot of examples.. but let me put it this way -

The law cannot be fooled.
You can sit wishing that the universe grants you love, richness and happiness... but you don't take care of yourself.. then you are just trying too fool the law.

You want love, richness and happiness.. but not ready to embrace change .. then you are fooling yourself.

You want love, richness and happiness.. but not ready to let go of the past and focus on the now.. then you are fooling yourself.

The law is not wrong.. just that its not simple.
It requires a personality transformation.

It requires one to become completely self-aware.. of complete control over thought and action.. of complete detachment from result..

Hence the law is not wrong.. but its understanding and expectations are are..

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

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Find out your “commitment quotient” – In a relationship are you desperate for a relationship or commitment phobic?

1. If you were asked to measure your "need for being together" vs your partner what would it be -

A. Your needs are way higher than your partners.
B. Both have same needs.
C. His/ her interest is much more.

2. While watching a movie/t.v. soap, the main character just runs away from a wedding after engagement, how would you react -
A. What an idiot!!! How could he do this to someone he loves
B. That can happen to anyone.
C. Why would anyone want to even get married.

3. You've been friends for few weeks with someone. After a few casual lunch/dinners, at night how does your mind react -
A. I think I just met the love of my life.
B. I think I'll ask him/her out again.
C. He/she was nice, but then who cares, I had a great time and thats what matters.

4. When your partner suggests that you meet his/her parents, you:
A. Are thrilled and ecstatic
B. Are happy, slightly nervous without expectations
C. Have a panic attack, and look for excuses to avoid it.

5. You get a surprise loving text/email or gift from someone you're dating. You:
A. Run to your best friend/family member and jump in joy.
B. You find it cute, smile and think it just made your day.
C. get worried where is this heading.

6. You've been seeing someone for a few weeks. The thoughts that cloud your mind -
A. When is the earliest you meet his/her parents
B. He/She makes a great friend, let it be so.
C. Lets have sex, and move on to the next.

7. How often you see your partner is determined by:
A. Him/ her.Left up to you,youd spend every second together
B. Mutual agreement,depending on work and other commitments
C. You try to fit the dates in when you find the time

8. Your partner plans to change jobs or posted to another city. You:
A. Cannot lose him/her. You decide to pack your stuff and follow him/her immediately.
B. Miss him/her. But start thinking on a long term plan.
C. Wish him/ her luck and move on. You're too settled to consider moving.

9. You are from a different religion/faith from your partner. Your partner asks you too change your belief system. You -
A. Immediately change - After all god and belief systems are nothing without your love.
B. Try to find a mid-way, but cannot give upon your belief.
C. Make your partner want to change to your belief/religion.

10. When you meet married friends, you think:
A. Some people have it so easy in life.Why cant I have this.
B. It’s good to see a great marriage.I hope that one day mine will be just as happy.
C. How can people stay with one person for life. Are they mad??


Your scored card -

20-49 - You are a love fool -
You're too desperate for a relationship.
Your self-esteem is dangerously dependent on your partner.
You can land up hurting yourself deeply.
A broken relationship can lead you too extreme amount of sadness and anger.
You might need to consult a counselor/psychiatrist to elevate your self-belief.

50-75 - You are Pragmatic and balanced -
Your outlook towards relationships is just right.
You're neither throwing yourself at someone in panic, nor are you avoiding a relationship.
Take your time to make up your mind.
Take care to maintain this balance and you will make the right choice.

76-100 - Commitment Phobic
The idea of a long term relationship gives you goose bumps. You are too closed and defensive about your own wants.
You may also be called selfish.
You might need to take counselling to help you battle this rigidity regarding relationships.


by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

email –
website –

twitter- @sai_ki_artist

(feel free to ask your questions/feedback through email)