Over the
years if there is one trait of human behavior I have come across every
mall, street, corporate office or business setup I have visited... its
"artificiality"
Walk through the malls, streets, corporate office, hospitals or weddings.. and I can instantly read how people mind are doing their best to be "artificial".
Being "artificial" is to deviate from your "natural behavior".. its acting out. Doing things you are not comfortable with, but you still do it to grab attention.
I remember at a local mall, a guy was trying to overtly impress a girl. He was speaking in a very heavily "accented" english... He was trying to give everyone the impression, he is very American.... Suddenly a small boy, tipped and dropped a milkshake all over him.
Within a fraction of a second, this guy was into hardcore, local hindi.. using words belonging to the lowest cadre.
Another incident, at the reception party of a newly weds, some girls decide to taste the free flowing alcohol. Trying to prove their supremacy and one is better than another, they landed up drinking one to many drinks. One of them was so drunk, she didn't even know her female assets were flashing in full-public view.
A slightly sober incident was at a corporate office were I had gone to give a motivational lecture. A young gun was trying his very best to show-off his stature. He spoke about being from a very rich family, spoke of big cars, millions of rupees... some of the employees thought they would teach him a lesson... So the moment the lunch bill came, they passed it onto him, quoting his "greatness and richness"... Having to live-up to the "artificial" self he had created, he had to pay up.
But the greatest "artificial" acting happens at parties and get-together. People are trying to outshine each other... For some speaking in English is a sign of culture!!
For others flashing expensive cell phones is a sign of power!!!
For others showing off new watches or jewelry is a sign of appreciation!!!
Unfortunately from most minds I have been able to read, 90% of people flashing the same have had to struggle hard to get that... And they just demean their struggle under the cover of artificial self.
ARTIFICIAL BEHAVIOR IS REQUIRED IN MANY SETTINGS, AS WE LIVE IN A WORLD THAT JUST PERCEIVES YOU FOR YOUR FACE-VALUE... NOT FOR YOUR EMOTIONAL-VALUE.
ARTIFICIAL BEHAVIOR ALWAYS LEADS TO DEVELOPMENT OF JEALOUSY, COMPARISON, ANGER, POLITICS AND LYING.
BE CAREFUL TO TRY AND CONTROL YOUR ARTIFICIAL BEHAVIOR...BECAUSE IT CAN BECOME A TRAP THAT LEADS YOU INTO SADNESS, NEGATIVITY AND STRESS.
Your suggestions and queries are most welcome at -
email - eksoch@gmail.com
regards,
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker and Counselor)
website - http://mindmantra.in/
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai
Walk through the malls, streets, corporate office, hospitals or weddings.. and I can instantly read how people mind are doing their best to be "artificial".
Being "artificial" is to deviate from your "natural behavior".. its acting out. Doing things you are not comfortable with, but you still do it to grab attention.
I remember at a local mall, a guy was trying to overtly impress a girl. He was speaking in a very heavily "accented" english... He was trying to give everyone the impression, he is very American.... Suddenly a small boy, tipped and dropped a milkshake all over him.
Within a fraction of a second, this guy was into hardcore, local hindi.. using words belonging to the lowest cadre.
Another incident, at the reception party of a newly weds, some girls decide to taste the free flowing alcohol. Trying to prove their supremacy and one is better than another, they landed up drinking one to many drinks. One of them was so drunk, she didn't even know her female assets were flashing in full-public view.
A slightly sober incident was at a corporate office were I had gone to give a motivational lecture. A young gun was trying his very best to show-off his stature. He spoke about being from a very rich family, spoke of big cars, millions of rupees... some of the employees thought they would teach him a lesson... So the moment the lunch bill came, they passed it onto him, quoting his "greatness and richness"... Having to live-up to the "artificial" self he had created, he had to pay up.
But the greatest "artificial" acting happens at parties and get-together. People are trying to outshine each other... For some speaking in English is a sign of culture!!
For others flashing expensive cell phones is a sign of power!!!
For others showing off new watches or jewelry is a sign of appreciation!!!
Unfortunately from most minds I have been able to read, 90% of people flashing the same have had to struggle hard to get that... And they just demean their struggle under the cover of artificial self.
ARTIFICIAL BEHAVIOR IS REQUIRED IN MANY SETTINGS, AS WE LIVE IN A WORLD THAT JUST PERCEIVES YOU FOR YOUR FACE-VALUE... NOT FOR YOUR EMOTIONAL-VALUE.
ARTIFICIAL BEHAVIOR ALWAYS LEADS TO DEVELOPMENT OF JEALOUSY, COMPARISON, ANGER, POLITICS AND LYING.
BE CAREFUL TO TRY AND CONTROL YOUR ARTIFICIAL BEHAVIOR...BECAUSE IT CAN BECOME A TRAP THAT LEADS YOU INTO SADNESS, NEGATIVITY AND STRESS.
Your suggestions and queries are most welcome at -
email - eksoch@gmail.com
regards,
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker and Counselor)
website - http://mindmantra.in/
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai
