Fun ways to Increase LOVE in a Relationship

Fun ways to Increase Love in a Relationship

The ancient Hindu spiritual Books, mention how love is the greatest positive energy created by god. It's the most beautiful of all emotions and the happiest of all feelings to experience. 

There is nothing more emotionally and spiritually stimulating than spending a moments full of love with your partner. 

Recent research has found that couples get adjusted to postive emotions exchanged between them. Its at this time that they need to take a look into their relationship and create new ways of increasing the affection. These new acts of affection have overall positive, creative and fullfilling effects on their personal and professional lives.

My experience as a relationship counselor has taught me how majority of couples go into a "content or adjusted phase", which decreases fun and happiness within their relationship.  Its at this time when couples move from "We having so much fun" to statements like "we used to have so much fun".

If not tackled in time, this can be a motivator to push one or both partners to seek variety and adventure outside the bounds of their relationship.

The following are simple Fun filled Tips that I have suggest and have helped hundreds of couples to re-discover the magic of love.

1. Celebrate Love

Most couples forget the excitement and passion of celebrating together. Going to a watch a movie, the restaurant, pub or lounge becomes a monotonous do-it-because-you-have-to task.

Celebrate love by doing something wacky or stupid together (remember together means only both of you. no children, family or friend). 

for example, Going to an amusement park, going on a trek, joining a dance class, running the marathon, driving to a undecided location without any reservations,etc

2. Review the Photos

Take your old photos and albums out. Go through them together. It helps to refresh the memory of all those initial emotions and feelings that you had experienced. 

3. Challenge each other
Stimulating situations push your body into "fight or flight mode", this tends to increases both physical and emotional input and output.

If used in a positive way, it works wonderfully to vent out negative emotions and introduced positive emotions.

Challenge each other to small tasks?

A sprint to the car or up the mall escalator, a sandwich eating contest, potato peeling contest, etc

Make your own challenge and enjoy it.

4. Thank each other.Most people love to give opinions and criticize. It's become a natural behavior. Appreciation isn't a natural phenomenon.

When was the last time you thanked your wife for doing a great work at home.

When was the last time you thanked your husband for doing a great work in taking care of the family.

When was the last time you thanked your girlfriend/boyfriend for the love and stability she/he gives you.

Celebrate saying thank you to each other.

5. Massage

A touch creats instant connection. A relaxing neck-massage can physically show more love than hundred thousand "I love you" messages. So massage each other, and spread the love.

In some cases, doing the same in public can sometimes boost his/her ego beyond boundaries.

6. Joke

When was the last time you told each other a joke. Forget the mobile or email forwards. Tell him/her a joke. Laugh upon it. Humor is the best defuser of tension and greatest promoter of likeness.

7. Spruce up the Make out session

Kissing, touching, cuddling are great techniques of increasing the love quotient. Instead of doing them for the same boring way as you have been for last few years, add new elements.

Perfumed Oils, sexy underwear, wrestling on the bed, bitting, etc all help to add that element of change within your make out session.

8. Bitch together.

If you cann't do any positive together, do something negative together. Bitch or Gossip about a common person. It secretly tells each other how well connected you are.

9. Enjoy the drink together.

If you believe that having alcohol is unholy or will pollute your system, then this isn't for you. For others, its a great bonding experience to sit and share a drink, once in a while. To enhance the moment, one of the partners can learn to make a few cocktails.

Sharing a drink, watching a movie or listening to songs can be one of the most beautiful experiences.

Hope these techniques help you, like they have helped hundreds of others, to re-ignite the Magic in your Love Life.

Thanks for Reading,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)

Emotion, Behavior, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health Consultant at Mind Mantra

Counselor and Neuro-Psychiatrist

http://www.mindmantra.in/

for free online help, email at eksoch@gmail.com

Your Words are Valuable

Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom-

One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance that ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students called Plato?"

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test".

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say.

The first Filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.

Now let's try the second filter, the Filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?"

The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued. "You may still pass the test though, because there is a third filter - the Filter of usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really..."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good, nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?" The man was defeated and ashamed.

MORAL OF THE STORY- Let's always try to "Talk" 'What's True', 'Good' about "Others" and 'Useful' for "All".

 

( Very relevant to daily life. sent to me as a forward.)

always enforce the right because it will give you peace of mind.

 

 

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)

Emotional, Behavioral, Relationships, Memory, Sleep and Sexual Health consultant at Mind Mantra

Neuro-Psychiatrist

http://www.mindmantra.in/

for free online consultation email at - eksoch@gmail.com

Last Minute Exam Preparation Tips

Last Minute Exam Preparation Tips

Exams are around the Corner. Tensions are high and. expectations are  Hereby some simple tips that can  help you perform much much better in exams.

1. Positive Stress

Stress is not always negative. In some cases its a great motivating force for improving performance. In a majority of students, small amounts of positive stress, increases the mind's cramming capabilities by few hundred times. Parents and students should identify and use positive stress.

REMEMBER- its will increase your cramming capacity not learning capacity.

2. Night Study

Night time study is in vogue these days. Every student who promotes and practices it, abides by the explanation "when the world sleeps,I can  concentrate better as nobody can disturb me."

Many Parents who contact me to help improve their child's memory power,  feel proud in proclaiming how their children spend an entire night studying. 

I hate break hearts, but THIS IS ILLOGICAL!!!!

I would just like remind you. All schools in India start at 8-9am. Hence for their entire school life, a child has woken up around 7am, and reached school by 8. And his brain has been conditioned to start functioning  to process information by 9-10am.

When such a life cycle is disrupted, night time study only helps to create disharmony within the sleep cycle. This leads to increased body fatigue, body pains and mental weakness.

REMEMBER- the exams are normally timed to happen in the morning. Your brain should be accustomed such, that during exam timings you are at the days peak performance levels.

3. Sleep

Most children sacrifice a lot of their sleep during exams. This leads to increased stress levels. For those who can battle the stress level, the brain uses this as positive. But for those who cannot handle it, it decreases the brain output and performance.

Make sure you get a minimum of 6hr continuous sleep every day.

4. The important First

Most students seem to be in some sort of race to finish the syllabus. They myth that "the more you attempt the better your result" plagues them too doom. 

If you go through old question papers, you will find that 70% of questions are asked from specific topics. And 30% are asked from diverse topics. 

Its logical to concentrate on that 70% first. As it will gives you chance of getting the best marks.

REMEMBER- When studying, always focus on the important topics first. Don't leave them for the end. 

Study them properly as they will give you maximum chance to score good.

5. Know How to Answer

While researching for this article, I asked a lot of teachers, "how much time the spend on an answersheet, what do they look for in a good answer, and what is their mind set while checking."

Most teachers said that the first look at the way an answer is written, fixes their mind on how much they want to score it. They look for specific points, and simplicity in finding those points helps them judge an answer better.

They also complain that most students feel that by fill pages and pages for a single answer, they will get better scores. 

Its important that a student understands, how to write a good answer for a particular subject.

Ask your teachers. Tell them to show you sample answers... 

REMEMBER- make it a practice, to take a minute after getting the question paper. See those questions which you can answer best. Formulate a game plan, keep it simple and enact on the planned.

6. Short hand strips

Have you ever used a cheating strip. It's a small strip of paper in which only the important points are mentioned. It works as a great refresher for the mind. Its a great help to create short-hand strips like these for yourself while studying. These will help you revise a great portion of the syllabus within minutes. 

REMEMBER - utilize them to revise not to cheat!!!

7. Eat 

Glucose is the fuel that drives the brain and body. Proteins are the building blocks of the brain and body. Water helps to maintain a positive circulation around the body.

When in high stress situations, the brain and body tend to utilize glucose and proteins at hundred of times the normal rate. 

Drink a glass of water every hour and eat small portions of balanced diet (high on energy and protein) every 2hourly to keep your body at peak performance.

8. Supplements

In a world of processed food, every important nutrient is available in capsule or tablet form. Make sure you get a daily dose of anti-oxidants and vitamins to help you boost brain performance.

9. Negative Stress

Like positive stress is beneficial in increasing the cramming capacity of the brain, negative stress is detrimental in decreasing the ability to learn, decreasing the ability to write the learnt in an exam and increasing the subconscious anxiety which can lead to running away from the exams or drastic steps like self-harm and/or suicide attempt.

If stress is causing an emotional roller coaster within the student, it's important to consult your local psychiatrist and get a short term course of non-sedative, non-addictive medications which will boost the brain and memory power along with decreasing the negative stress.

regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PG.DPM)

Psychiatrist

Emotional, Behavior, Sleep, Memory and Sexual Health consultant at Mind Mantra

www.mindmantra.in

For free online consultancy email at - eksoch@gmail.com

Money Vs. Peace of Mind

How ironic, people spend a life time searching. for money and pleasure to finally conclude that peace and god lies within themselves?

a. Money is a great motivator. In reference to Money, The sacred Hindu scriptures of the Vedas, clearly mentions, that a person needs to earn enough money to meet his social, physical and emotional needs.
These needs have been also defined by the vedas.

b. In the bhagwat gita, during the 12th chapter, the chapter on devotion to god, lord krishna clearly tells arjun
that there are 2 ways to attain "the pure self" or inner peace...
one is by completely surrendering yourself to the higher been and just letting him guide you...(which is practically impossible in todays world)
second is by service to him, thru service to mankind.. (that means utilising a part of your earned resources to help those lesser fortunate).

c. the above two examples sum up to tell us, that earning money is not a wrong thing... earn, and earn for a good living. but also be careful of greed, high ego and insulting others lesser fortunate than you.

Because peace of mind depends on the balance and satisfaction between your outer and inner self.

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)
Emotional, Behavioral And Sexual Health Consultant
email - eksoch@gmail.com
(www.mindmantra.in)

The Secret to FAME

The SECRET TO FAME

Want to become Famous!

Want People to follow you!

The secret lies in your Mind… The following personality traits are essential for fame.



1. STOP DREAMING and START ACTING

“Shah Rukh Khan has had back surgery and lived in unbearable pain for months”

“Hrithik Roshan has a stammering problem. He spends hours rehearsing dialogues and dance moves”

“Amitabh Bachachan has to regularly visit the doctor and get injections for his intestine inflammations”

“Kareena Kapoor has to dance for hours together to perfect a single step. And when her body is in aching in pain, she has to go act for hours”

What actors, businessmen, politicians, and other fame people never tell you is that FAME DOESN’T COME TO THOSE WHO KEEP DREAMING ABOUT IT.

Keeping your dream always in your heart and mind, do actions that will help you be recognized by people.

If you want to be famous, take the right actions!!!

Do something, affiliate yourself with someone or something or create something that is constructive, newsworthy and meaningful.

Be prepared to work very hard or else forget about it…!



2. BE PREPARED TO SACRIFICE

The higher you move in the ladder of fame, the more fragile your relationships will become. Many times relationships or emotional attachment might be a road block to success.

Be prepared to become self-centered. Prepare to care for only yourself. The moment you let others influence you, your focus will dilute and you’ll never be able to achieve what you want.

Make yourself emotionally tough or else forget about it...!


3. BE PREPARED TO BE CHEATED

Fame is a fatal attraction. The more you get it, the more you want it. Many anti-social elements take advantage of those wanting to be famous and use them for their needs and deeds.

No matter how intelligent, how shrewd or cunning you are, SOMEONE WILL CHEAT YOU.

Be prepared to be cheated emotionally, physically or financially or else forget about it…!


4. SHOW AUTHORITY WHERE IT MATTERS

You don’t become a STAR or a FAMOUS personality over night. So stop bossing your parents, your friends, your servants, workers in malls or anyone who you feel is lesser than you.

Authority should be projected through your body language not by your shouting or anger. No one likes a demanding person around, and you might lose because of such an attitude.

Take fast decisions, and stick by them. Be stern in your behavior, don’t be afraid to ask questions, don’t feel embarrassed, wear your confidence on your sleeve, all this portrays you as an achiever.


5. MAKE CONTACTS

Today is a world of networking. If you don’t know 10 successful people within the industry you want to be famous in, then you don’t have anything.

Having someone as a friend in facebook or orkut is useless!!!

Meet as many people as you can. The more people know you, the higher your chances of a lucky break.
Don't be afraid to make that telephone call or attend that meeting.
Don't be afraid of being humiliated or being insulted. Concentrate on getting a contact.

Make sure you know people from all angles of life. Don’t marginalize yourself to one industry or one type of people only. You never know behind which corner the big opportunity is waiting.


6. DO CHARITY

Helping those who need it always keeps you grounded. Help people for the satisfaction of giving. This teaches you responsibility, how to influence people and how people perceive you.


7. CONCENTRATE ON YOUR SKILL

Everyone is born with a particular skill. Some are great at planning, others at talking, others at politics, others at advertising, etc… Know what you are good at and always concentrate on that. For the rest, have a pool of people fulfill it for you.

NEVER LET THE BELIEVE IN YOURSELF FADE AND YOU WILL ACHIEVE IT


Regards,

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, PGDPM)
Emotional, Behavior and Sexual Health Consultant
Email – eksoch@gmail.com
http://www.mindmantra.in/