why woman and men cheat in relationships

Researchers of the Spire Liverpool Hospital found that during physical contact of sexual nature in women produce higher levels of oxytocin, the hormone that binds women emotionally to their partners. 
It is worth noting that this hormone is produced in the same quantities, whether it is a one night stand or a serious relationship.
Now this brings to the point of discussion that - If her partner is not able to "arouse" her raise oxytocin levels, its natural that a woman might look for another partner. 
A woman finds it easier to get emotionally and physically attached to her new partner.
In men, instead, the same stimulates the nervous system to produce more dopamine, the pleasure hormone, and this surge can be very addictive.
The hormone levels fluctuate depending on the attraction, nature of sexual contact and desire for the same.
This brings out the point of discussion that, Men seem addicted to the "physical act". Hence those who are not attracted to their partners or don't find physical pleasure with their partner, might remain emotionally loyal but not physically.
Interesting developments!!!
My Mind Mantra on this - I meet many men and women who are "cheating" on their partners. They find different reasons and explanations for the same. 
They all seem to have guilt, but something in them still makes it uncontrollable to do so. 
Most people show a certain level of control and clarity in mind after proper counselling and treatment!! 
So somewhere the hormones are affecting the minds understanding of reality.. and the mind might need strengthening???
- Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS,DPM)
Psychiatrist 
www.mindmantra.in - eksoch@gmail.com

Valentines Day - Hearty - Heartbroken - Heartless!!

Its nearly the end of 14th February or Valentines Day.
The beauty of this day is that its a wonderful teacher.
It teaches you 3 beautiful aspects of Love -

1. Hearty - Today If your loved one fulfilled your expectations, you'll feel super elated. Happiness will take over you and you'll feel like dancing in love.
This is the madness of love - it takes you into a different world.

2. Heartbroken - If your loved one didn't meet or rejected your expectations, you'll feel sad. You'll cry in sadness, heart will be full of pain.
This is the power of love. It takes a second to destroy your mental peace. No matter how powerful, rich or famous you might be.

3. Heartless - If your loved one doesn't care about you, and is enjoying with someone else. You'll become full of anger. You'll become heartless.
This is the devastation of love. - love can give all its power to anger. Anger will blind you, and lead to any extent of destruction.

Remember Love is always present in Hearty, heartbroken or heartless person.. Its just the expression that changes.

Valentines day is a great Teacher... Let its teachings guide you towards growth, happiness and positivity of Love.

written by-
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist
eksoch@gmail.com - www.mindmantra.in

The Power of - "I Love You"

Its Valentines Day eve. As much as we say that love has to be celebrated year long, everyday of life... Thanks to mainstream media, for a great number of people Tomorrow is the most important day for expressing their love.

Everyone's expression of love should be respected.

So if you are someone for whom Valentines Day is very important, than its also important that you understand the power of - I LOVE YOU.

"I Love you" is a universal statement. A child can use it for this mother, a brother for his sister, a friend for his friend and a lover for his lover.

What does "I love you" mean?

1. Acceptance - you accept someone whole-heartedly.

2. Non-discrimination - you don't compare or measure your love. You give 100%.

3. Commitment - You stay together in good times and bad times. In sadness and in fun.

4. Promise - You give 100% loyalty.

5. Sharing - You open your heart and mind. You don't sharing every part of your life.

6. Expectation - You expect certain degree of reciprocation. (this is variable from individual to individual)


What is the Power of "I Love You"?
When said with 100% emotional strength - "I love you" - destroys your mental boundaries. It makes you psychologically vulnerable. You give another person a complete control over yourself.

In return you get to experience the feelings of ecstasy, euphoria and peace of mind.


KNOW THE POWER of your "I love you".
DON'T WASTE your "i love you"
GIVE IT TOO THOSE THAT MATTER.

Love is a continuous celebration..!!

HAPPY VALENTINES.


written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
Psychiatrist

eksoch@gmail.com - www.mindmantra.in