Unhappy at Home? Will Work Help You?

London:Are you unhappy at home Well,you are deluding yourself if you think work will make up for it,says a new study.Researchers have carried out the study and found a link between how happy someone was in their personal life and how satisfied they were in their job especially among the main earners in households.

But this did not extend to anyone attempting to use work to compensate for unhappiness in their personal life.

Professor Yannis Georgellis at Kingston University in London,one of the researchers,said: The life and work 
domains are definitely correlated.Happiness at home affects your job and vice versa.

Although there is a clear spillover effect from one area of life to the other,there is no evidence that people who are very unhappy at home will feel compensated by work in any way. 

(The above is an article from Today's Times of India, Mumbai)


As a Psychiatrist, Motivational Speaker and Counselor, I get to meet many people who are facing the same situation as above. 

The Basic Outline of the problem is:
One of the path's most traveled in search of happiness is to compensate our levels of happiness. Henceforth if an individual is very unhappy at home or in his personal life, he tries to find happiness in work and professional life... or vice-versa. 

Who should take this path?
Once problem start at personal level, the initial reaction is to either solve them or avoid them. If the problem keep cropping up again and again, a person starts feeling frustration and looks for other ways to satisfy him/her need for happiness.
The Success of transferring your need for happiness completely onto professional gains and not personal gains depends on the presence of the following personality traits:

a. Social Outlook - Society is an integral part of an individual and his personality. Unwantedly subconscious comparison with various society members keeps happening at various levels. Every individual has a "psychological index" to how much he/she is sensitive to social outlook. 
The higher the sensitivity, the lesser the capacity to find peace and happiness through mere professional success.

b. Core Personality - Many individuals (men and women) develop a "workoholic" kind of personality. One which resolves and centers around "control and perfection" in professional life. Such individuals are more prone to having a unsuccessful married or family life. Thou they are extremely successful in living life happily by professional gains, and not caring much about personal life.

Those who are not purely "workoholics", normally have a certain grade of "emotionally dependency" onto their partners, family members or friends. The higher this dependency, the more difficult to gain happiness through just professional success.

c. Intrusion - If personal life constantly keeps intruding an individuals mind in forms of thoughts or if physically the presence of a loved one at the work place or constant calls/texts at work place, he/she finds it extremely difficult to be able to battle the situation.
In such a situation a person doesnt get enough time to be able to focus his/her entire emotional and physical energies onto work. Leading to increased sadness.

What can this lead to?
Happiness is the base of human living. A sperm fertilizes an ovum, because of the happiness in the union of two energy sources. A mother bares the pain of having her child in the womb for 9months, out of the feeling of happiness. A student feels good only when he has a positive result. A professional feels great when he is appreciated for his work.

Happiness is core to human living.
If a person doesn't get happiness from personal and/or professional angles of his/her life, the individual in concern is highly likely to develop an "emotional vacuum" or "emptiness" in the subconscious mind.
A constant exposure to these causes the subconscious mind to lose a lot of energy and starts affecting the functioning of the physical brain. 

This leads to episodes of one or more of the following :
1. Nervous Breakdown
2. Major Depression 
3. Altered reality or imaginative world generation
4. High stress levels or excessive thoughts generation which cannot be controlled.
5. Decreased Sleep Cycles
6. Mood Swings
7. Altered eating patterns
8. Gastric Problems
9. Sexual issues which can range from increased desire for sex, increased masturbation to decreased performance and lack of need for the act.

For any further discussion on the above contact me 

Dr.Hemantt Mittall  
(MBBS, PG.DPM, M.D.(Mind Mantra Wellness Concepts - Mumbai))
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1 comment:

  1. Dear Dr. Hemanth,

    I agree that the work can be of great help to patients. I just now had an interaction with a person called Proff. Nagaraju S.S, who is retired principal from an engineering college of Mumbai, now doing a great job in USA. After his retirement and his wife expired he went into depression. But later he started learning Brail and began writing books on Science(engineering) and many other kind of books which are now a prescribed textbooks in BANA(Brail Authority of Northern America). He has been doing this since 12 years. I went through his complete health report and amazing not a single problem. It is aptly said Work never kills a man(maybe women also). Dr. Raghavendra M.S, Head and Consultant Endocrinologist, Department of Preventive Health Care, Sagar Group of Hospitals,Bangalore.