When Iron Man needed a Burger to Get his Power Back

Positive Change can happen within seconds.. You just have to be open to accept it.

Robert Downey Jr., star of the hit movie, Iron Man, claims Burger King saved his life from his drug addiction.

According to RDJ, in 2003 he was driving a car full of drugs when he decided to go grab a burger. The burger he had was, apparently, exceptionally disgusting. So repulsive was the burger that he thought something really bad was going to happen.

The burger made him rethink.. He thought his life was just like the burger.. instead of doing the drugs.. he drove down to the ocean and threw all of them into it.

From that point forward, he made up his mind to be clean. Within hours he sought professional help and started recovering from his drug use... Since then, he has become health conscious, focused, developed a great physique and never ever had touched any drug.
He feels deeply in-debited to that Burger King Burger for changing his life.


ANYTHING, ANYWHERE, ANYTIME CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE... IT TAKES SECONDS FOR REALIZATION TO COME..
One has to be differentiate between true Realization and Just being emotional about something.
An emotional self, feels motivated, but soon goes into procrastination and forgets everything.

Realization is the height of motivation... after that an individual will immediately act upon what he/she resolves. The path followed is full of emotional pain, but he/she who has experienced realization will not be persuaded or disheartened by all the pain that they will have to fight.

Dr.Hemant Mittal (Neuro-Psychiatrist and Counselor)
email - eksoch@gmail.com
www.mindmantra.in

The "psycho" with a golden heart

Nadeem (name changed), has been a patient of mine for nearly 3years.
A 34years old, young chap from Mumbai, he has been through a very rough ride in life.
He started suffering from Paranoid type of Schizophrenia at the age of 15years... Having failed in his exams, an abusive father and a family history of the disorder were all cases for it to start.

For last 20years he has been battling the ignorance of the society.
Initially his family didn't understand his problem and they took him too all "black-magic" healers possible.
Side by side his parents would beat him, so that he stops behaving oddly.
Nearly a year later he was taken to a psychiatrist who put him on extremely heavy medications.
For next 15years, Nadeem only slept, ate and slept.
His family members, the people in his vicinity, neighbours would call him "psycho".
If he would go out for a walk, children, shop keepers and adults would shun him away, with slangs like "mental, psycho, idiot"
He was so afraid that he wouldn't leave his room, with the fear of what people would say and do to him.

5years ago he started working for an automobile repair shop near his home... Slowly slowly he learnt new techniques and applied them.
He wasn't the most proficient of all the workers, but was able to do all his work perfectly.
A few weeks ago, someone stole a huge chunk of money from the cashier. Immediately people pointed fingers at Nadeem.
Already fighting the ghosts of a paranoid disorder, it seemed that he would relapse and go back into his own world.

The next day of being accused of stealing, Nadeem went to the owner and gave him a small box. On opening the Box the owner saw a lot of 100 rupees notes stacked in it.

Nadeem said- "Seth, yeh meine pichle 2 saal mein paisa bachaya hai... kuch logo ki tips hai.. kuch pagar ka... aap isko raakh lo... meine chori nahi kiya... but mere ko yaha se maat nikalo... mere ko vapis uss duniya mein nahi kohna.."
( sir, this is my savings for the past 2 years.. Some from tips.. some from my monthly savings.. You keep it all.. But please don't fire me... I don't want to go back into that dark world of mine")

The Boss initially got angry, and told him he didn't want his money.. but shortly realized how wrong he was to accuse Nadeem of such.
The culprit was caught.. and it was the same guy who had started blaming Nadeem for the incident.

We get so blinded by Labels... That we just judge everyone based on that.

Everyday I meet men and women who have tortured by the labels like Psycho, Mad, Moti  (Fat), Ugly, Slut, easy, ... and no one seems to try and spend one minute understanding the real heart and soul behind those destructive labels.

Even the most handicapped man in this planet can teach you something.. don't close your learning process by calling him a handicapped.. learn from him, and I promise you, your soul will be enriched.

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Mental Health and Sexual Health Healer,
Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)

email - eksoch@gmail.com
website - http://mindmantra.in/services.html

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Navi Mumbai

Bill Gates, Hrithik Roshan, Karan Johar - The POWERFUL INTROVERTS

The Power of an Introvert

What is common between Hrithik Roshan, Karan Johar,. Warren Buffet, Bill Gates and a few thousand people that have met in my clinic or at workshops over the last few years?

They all have been Introverts at some point in their life.

The moment an individual is labelled as introvert, he/she is automatically looked upon as weak.

Today, I am going to break that myth. If you are introvert, you have amazing power and energy stored inside of you.

Based on thousands of "introverts" i have met and counseled, here are some of the myths that people have and truths people fail to see:

1. Introvert, the deadly Label - Lets accept it being Introvert is not a disorder or mental weakness. See Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Mukesh Ambani.. They are among the most powerful men in the world... Are they weak.. I guess they can make you weak... So stop thinking that an introvert is mentally unstable or is mentally weak.

2. Shyness – They are not always shy. They have a problem starting or maintaining a conversation. Knowing their own short coming they prefer to keep quiet.
I remember a patient of mine, whose parents complained he just replied in yes/no or single sentences. I had a counseling session with the gentleman that went on for 2hrs. And he did all the talking. Why? because i didn't judge him. I was open to listen to him.

3. They don’t talk – They love to talk. But for them to talk, they need a topic which they are comfortable with, they need a person who encourages and appreciates their views on that topic.

4. Friendships Skills – Introverts are probably the best and most loyal friends any individual could have. Since they interact and open up to only a few people, they love those people many times more than others would.
Unfortunately because they are not "outgoing" they are labelled as "boring". I remember a counseling an adolescent who was bad at planning but was very great following plans. His friends labelled him "boring" for lack of "adventurous" ideas and left him.... He being an introvert kept lot of his feelings bottled up. He went into depression. This caused him extreme emotional pain.
He was positive enough to take the emotional pain and channelize it. He accepted his "personality", accepted a lot of his powers.. and went to enjoy life much more than ever before.

5. Social skills – If they have a problem starting or maintaining a conversation, they might just focus on speaking the relevant issues. Creating a perception of “high headiness” or “high attitude” around them.

6. They stay alone – Because people don’t understand them, they develop ways of day-dreaming and staying happy within their own thoughts.

7. Don’t have Fun – Their brain is sensitive to noises and high adrenaline rushes. This doesn’t mean they cann’t have fun. Their definition of fun is different. But if you are ready to try their way of fun, you can have the time of your life!!!

I am thankful to every introvert who I have met... I thank them for teaching me the supreme power in their subconscious mind... and I thank a lot of them who have been able to channelize that energy to be such a motivating force to self, me and society.

DONT DISCRIMINATE... UNDERSTAND, CHANNELIZE AND MOTIVATE.

Hrithik Roshan, Karan Johar, Warren Buffet and Bill Gates did it… so can YOU AND ANYONE ELSE!!!

For further assistance on this topic, you can CONTACT ME (all conversations are kept CONFIDENTIAL) -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Mental Health and Sexual Health Healer,
Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)

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Navi Mumbai

Importance of Emotions in Our life

In my line of work, anger and irritation are two friends that walk by you side by side.
Every day I get to meet them in very different shapes and sizes.
A few weeks ago I had a rather unusual case.
Mr.Patil (name changed) walked in to my consultancy rather confused and irritated.
After the initial pleasantries, I asked him "Mr.Patil, how can I help you?"

He replied "It's not me, its my wife... I feel she has some psychological disorder, and I need your help"

I queried further - "sure, I would be able to guide you better, if you tell me what symptoms she is showing"

He replied... " its rather confusing, but nowadays she is always at peace...

How do I put this? Well, she was not always like this... She was always "normal".
We have been married for 7yrs, and I have always come home to find a wife who is Restless, ambitious, jealous, fun loving, romantic, sometimes very angry... just a perfect mix of everything...

(after a deep breath and a small pause)

10 months ago she went for a trekking trip... While returning back her car suffered an accident and her sister died..."

(looking around the room).. he continued

"well initially she was very severely depressed..all the time she felt guilty for what had happened.. just kept crying and just withdrew into her own world... it was really tough... we just didn't know what to do... it was embarasing and awkward to talk to her... and though we all supported her.. no one could go ahead and really relate to her pain.
We tried to be practical.. and advised her to be the same... you know... classical lines "Jaane wala chala gaya, aab aapni life aage badhao"

6 months ago, I thought that having her work in a orphanage would be great. It would help her come out of this.
She started going there and too my surprise within weeks she was much happier.
It was like if I was getting my beloved wife back.. I desperately was waiting for the day, when I would desperately hold her and kiss her... tell her how much I love her.. and how much I have missed her all these days!!!

Then suddenly things started changing... She slowly slowly peaceful.
It was as if she was always happy in the moment..
I got a new luxury car she smiled.. Earlier she would be jumping all around.

Her maid left.. she smiled... Earlier she would have called everyone and complained about the lack of people.

We got late and missed a movie... She just smiled.. Earlier she would have shot my head down with her words.

My daughter got mildly ill and used it as an excuse not to study, she tended to her wonderfully and smiled at the kids every single demand... Earlier she would have thrown a panic attack for her missing her studies.

I feel helpless.. She is always happy in every situation!!!"

ITS SUCH AN IRONY THAT THE VERY EMOTIONS WE RUN AWAY FROM .. ARE THE PAINTERS THAT COLOUR THE CANVAS OF OUR LIFE.

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Dr.Hemant Mittal
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Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)

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Navi Mumbai

How Muhammad Ali conquered his fear to conquer the world?

Why don’t you learn something about fighting, before you make any hasty challenges: - That was the advice that Louisville police officer and boxing coach Joe Martin gave a 12 year-old who reported his bicycle stolen and wanted to ‘beat up’ the responsible parties.

That 12-year-old was then known as Cassius Clay and those words launched a career for the man the world would remember as Muhammad Ali.

Martin brought the precocious pre-teen into a gym and taught the lanky middleweight the art of boxing.

By the year 1960, Ali had won number of domestic accolades in USA, but was yet to be recognized world wide.

The reason being his fear of flying or aviophobia. Ali was very good at disguising his fears, so whenever a boxing fight would require him to fly he would find some other way of reaching there.

In 1960, Ali earned a fight in Rome. There was no other option than to take a transatlantic flight.
Fearful he again went to his "guru" Joe Miller for advice. Miller told him - "If you want to be heavyweight champion, you have to go to Rome."

Ali decided to go. So to take a flight over the Atlantic, he was going to be prepared.
Prior to the flight, Ali stopped at an Army surplus store and bought a parachute that he took with him on the plane.

He spent the entire flight praying with the parachute strapped to his back.

Once he reached Rome safely, he realized that he had just conquered his greatest fear.

Ali never looked back... He went to mesmerize the world... He wrote his name in the history books.
People might call him Narcissit, Flamboyant, Arrogant, Great or Bad-boy.. but he went to travel the entire world by Air. And everywhere he went, HE INSPIRED MILLIONS TO LIVE LIFE WITHOUT FEAR AND TO FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHTS.


THERE IS A WALL BETWEEN YOU AND HAPPINESS... THIS IS A WALL OF FEAR... THE ONLY WAY IT CAN BE CROSSED IS BY BREAKING IT.

CONFRONT YOUR FEARS AND BREAK THE WALL... EXPERIENCE THE PEACE, HAPPINESS AND GREATNESS WAITING FOR YOU.

For further assistance on this topic, you can CONTACT ME (all conversations are kept CONFIDENTIAL) -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
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Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)

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Navi Mumbai

Sexual infidelity

A new research says "watching porn for married men and women, triggers the same area of the brain as being involved in an extra-marital sexual relationship"

Some true stories of sexual infidelity, that I have come across as a psychiatrist -

"I had sex with someone at work. I love my wife but I somehow felt the need to experiment. Till when can I be satisfied with one only"

"He was an old friend of mine, we are in a healthy sexual relationship. I love my husband, but he make me feel young again"

"I have a wonderful wife, but I cannot control my urge to be sexually involved with new women"

"My husband is great, but if I want to be successful in this corporate world, I have to make use of my body"

"I have a great family, but I keep fantasing about other women. I have a false facebook account and even sex-chat with many of them"


Sexual infidelity is one of humanity's great obsessions, perhaps second only to violence.
We HATE and feel EMBARASSED to talk about it but secretly a great majority is INTERESTED and INTRIGUED by it.


So why is monogamy so hard for many?

The question is while thousands of researchers have proven that being in an long-term monogamous relationship is extremely good for mental health, still being monogamous is so difficult. Why?

1. The superiority complex - Many men and women suffer from a "superiority complex".
Out of those who have "Superiority complex" many indulge in the "sexual game"

As a psychological development flaw in expressing their emotions, they indulge in a  "sexual game"... this game revolves around "sexual conquests".
For such an individual, the ultimate goal is how many men or women they have been able to take to bed.
Having sex satisfies their feeling of "superiority".
Marriage many times fails to stop this complex. And within months they are again back on the "hunt".

When presented with an opportunity to have a conquest, They fail to see "rational" and "love" towards spouse. They get into the game, and start playing it.



2. The inferiority complex - Many men and women feel incomplete in their marriage.
They always feel something is lacking. They always blame themselves for not putting that extra-effort in the relationship.
When they meet someone from the opposite sex who makes them feel special or gives them attention, they stop feeling that "inferiority complex", and tend to go the "extra-mile" to satisfy this new person in their life.
Such people will show sudden changes in their personality. They will go from sad to happy and from fearful to confidence within days of being in an affair.


3. Need to feel young - No one likes to age. And one of the worst part of aging is feeling rejected by the opposite sex.
Many men and women get into short-term sexual relationships to feel young.


4. Physical attraction - Many people, specially in india, marry spouses who are not "physically attractive" for them.
Some times if their partners become fat, have some disease, loses their hair or teeth then they are no longer attracted to them .

Personalities that are indirectly attracted to the material world will look to have extra-marital affairs with younger and more attractive partners, to feel deserved.


5. Work stress - many times we discount work stress, but it is one of the 3 most important stress a sexually active individual faces.
If your partner doesn't understand your work stress, isn't helping you battle it, then you lose the importance of your partner in your life.
This loneliness is satisfied by getting sexually involved with co-workers who understand and can talk about your work-stress.


6. Lack of fulfillment of sexual needs - as one grows, his/her sexual needs change.
Years ago I counseled a gentleman who wanted to have sex with 2 women at one time. He told his wife, and she didn't agree. So he got into extra-marital sexual relationships.
I have also met women who love to experiment with their sexuality but know their husbands won't agree, so seek the "thrill and fun" outside.


7. Problems in married life
Engaging in an extra-marital affair is a very easy way to get out of problems that one might be facing in their marriage.

A few years ago, I was at a marriage function, were the groom's mother happened to be an old patient of mine. The groom's parents had divorced because his father was caught having multiple sexual relationships. Though he kept pleading and pledging love for his wife, he couldn't explain his need for "extra-marital sex". I remember the old lady very politely and in a very classy way telling her son - "It's not money or power or expensive gifts, but The greatest symbol of your love towards your wife is fidelity. Make me a proud mother and make her a proud wife, always be truthful"

FIDELITY IS POSSIBLE ONLY THROUGH A JOINT EFFORT..
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN AND OUT OF BED IS ESSENTIAL..
MANY TIMES THE PROBLEM NEEDS PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGICAL HELP SO IT CAN BE SOLVED... IF IT CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY, THERE IS NO HARM IN CONSULTING A GOOD PSYCHIATRIST/PSYCHOLOGIST.

For further assistance on this topic, you can CONTACT ME (all conversations are kept CONFIDENTIAL) -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Mental Health and Sexual Health Healer,
Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)

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website - http://mindmantra.in/services.html

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Navi Mumbai

Is technology killing your relationship

 Is technology killing your relationship

Communication devices were supposed to help people stay connected. However it seems that one is disconnecting with his closest ones.

Not many years ago, couples would go the extra mile to communicate. Talking face to face was essential. Men would drive half way through the city to meet their loved ones, married couples would make sure the evening meal wasn't just watching the TV but talking about the day. Problems were discussed together, and physical presence gave re-assurance that any problem would be faced together.

Technology was supposed to ease this process... Did it happen? NO!
Blackberry messenger, Whatsapp, facebook are silently killing relationships.

In the last few years, have counseled many men and women who have complained "feeling alone, even when in a committed relationship".
On inquiry, I found that either them or their partner seemed to be "married to the smartphone".

Such is their involvement with the smartphone, that couples are turning away from conversing with each other and are seeking company in their latest gadget and gizmo. Conversation with a partner is slowly dying out, people feel more expressive to communicate through a whatsapp/blackberry message rather than face to face conversation.

Going out, watching a movie, having dinner, even while sharing a romantic moment, the "tring tring" sound of a new text/sms or blinking red light of a new BBM, are taking their attention away from the moment.
Decreased spans of attention automatically kill the emotional involvement within the moment.
When two people stop "effective communication".. This in turn decreases the love, affection and bond between them... There relationship become fragile... and can be easily broken by a third person.

A new survey, I read about in a national newspaper, suggest that -
a. About 80% of smartphone users avoid conversations as they are busy on their phone or laptop at the lunch/dinner table.

b. About 76% smartphone using couples also revealed that silence envelopes the space between them in bed as they sit around surfing the net using their phone or laptops,without saying a word.

c. Around 80% of people said they hate being interrupted when on their phone or laptop.

d. People have become so obsessed with having a virtual presence that very few make it a point to socialize in the real world.  This is evident through the rampant multiple conversations happening through messenger services simultaneous.
Though one feels these are satisfying for the self, they are actually destroying your involvement with the real world and taking you away from the issues that really matter.

e. 98% people who are involved in this obsessive behavior will deny it. And say "we can leave our smartphones any time"

We cannot leave technology aside, but becoming an emotional slave of a screen is the most stupid thing you can do.

Nothing can replace face to face interaction.


What you should do?

1. Log off - Learn to Log off...  Everyday for 3-5hrs of your awake time, make sure your BBM/Whatsapp/Facebook is turned off.

2. Plan time with your partner.
If you partner is completely obsessed with his/her mobile device, make sure you spend few hours with him/her where the device is left aside.

3. No phones should be allowed while having lunch/dinner.

4. Avoid browsing the net on your phone or laptop while having a conversation with your partner as its disrespectful.

Remember the first few times you will do this, your partner will get irritable and angry. But don't hesitate from continuing your efforts.

5. if you partner is completely obsessed the smartphone, make sure you get him/her to visit a counselor/psychiatrist, before he/she land into an online extra-marital relationship which destroys your relationship.

For further assistance on this topic, you can CONTACT ME (all conversations are kept CONFIDENTIAL) -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Mental Health and Sexual Health Healer,
Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)

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website - http://mindmantra.in/services.html

or visit my wellness clinic @-
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai

OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

One of the silent mental health problems, taunted to affect 1 in every 5 adult within the next 15years.

Broadly, OCD can be said to be a combination of the following mental process : -

1. Recurrent thoughts, images, or impulses that are experienced as intrusive and inappropriate, causing marked anxiety or distress

2. these are more than simple worries about life.

3. A person puts in all efforts to ignore, suppress, or neutralize these thoughts but fails on the same.

4. Most people Recognize this to be a product of their own mind

5. Compulsions may be present or not. They are behaviors or acts that you feel driven to perform although may recognize them as senseless or excessive. At times you may try to resist doing them but this may prove extremely difficult. You may experience anxiety that does not diminish until the behavior is completed.

6. Such an emotional and behavioral pattern subjects a Person to develop extreme fear, negativity, decreased self-worth, introvert lifestyle, sadness and loneliness.


The most common OCD patterns observed are:
a. cleaning and keeping things in order
b. sexual thoughts and masturbation
c. washing hands or taking bath
d. checking – locks, switches, etc
e. special sequence of numbers/words to be repeated before and after an action
f. mental list reviewing or mental list making.
d. constant recurrent memories of traumatic experiences in life.


CURE?
OCD has to be carefully assessed.
1. there is no magical cure for OCD
2. Because its invisible doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
3. You cannot just stop the brain from having the symptoms.
4. Depending on the various degrees, types and presentation of OCD it can be treated by:
a. relaxation techniques - meditation/ deep muscle relaxation/ self-hypnosis
b. counseling - CBT or REBT
c. Medications -

For further assistance on this topic, you can CONTACT ME (all conversations are kept CONFIDENTIAL) -

Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Mental Health and Sexual Health Healer,
Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)

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website - http://mindmantra.in/services.html

or visit my wellness clinic @-
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai