It depends. There are as many loves as there are people. Love is a hierarchy, from the lowest rung to the highest, from sex to superconsciousness. There are many many layers, many planes of love. It all depends on you. If you are existing on the lowest rung, you will have a totally different idea of love than the person who is existing on the highest rung. Adolf Hitler will have one idea of love, Gautam Buddha another and they will be diametrically opposite, because they are at two extremes.
At the lowest, love is a kind of politics, power politics. Love is about domination. — the politics that exists between husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, friends, family members. Love is nothing but a sugar-coated pill.
People are falling in love with horses, dogs, animals, machines, things. Why? Because to be in love with human beings has become an utter hell, a continuous conflict.
At the highest peak, when love is not a relationship any more, when love becomes a state of your being, the lotus opens totally and great perfume is released — but only at the highest peak. At its highest, love is a religious state of consciousness. Love demands nothing in return.
Love is given for the sheer joy of giving it, it is not a bargain. Hence the radiant beauty of it, hence the transcendental beauty of it. It surpasses all the joys that you have known. It is unaddressed, you don’t love this person or that person, you simply love. You are love. Rather than saying that you love somebody, it will be better to say you are love.
Nancy was having coffee with Helen. Nancy asked, “How do you know your husband loves you?” “He takes out the garbage every morning.” “That’s not love. That’s good housekeeping.” “My husband gives me all the spending money I need.” “That’s not love. That’s generosity.” “My husband never looks at other women.” “That’s not love. That’s poor vision.” “John always opens the door for me.” “That’s not love. That’s good manners.” “John kisses me even when I’ve eaten garlic and I have curlers in my hair.” “Now, that’s love.”
Everybody has their own idea of love. And only when you come to the state where all ideas about love have disappeared, where love is no more an idea but simply your being, then only will you know its freedom. Then love is God. Then love is the ultimate truth. Let your love move through the process of meditation. Watch it: watch the cunning ways of your mind, watch your power-politics. And nothing else except continuous watching and observing is going to help.
When love is unmotivated, then love is the greatest thing that can ever happen to anybody. Then love is something of the ultimate, of the beyond.
- – Osho
AS OSHO AND ALL THE SAINTS WHO HAVE BLESSED HUMANITY TIME AND AGAIN HAVE POINTED OUT… OUR GOAL AND MISSION IS TO ATTAIN THAT STATE OF BECOMING LOVE… ALWAYS STRIVE FOR THAT.
IT DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU KISS IN PUBLIC.. OR YOU PISS IN PUBLIC… IF YOU CAN GO BEYOND THE POLITICS OF DOMINATION.. YOU WILL EXPERIENCE THE FREEDOM AND WONDER OF LOVE.. AND I CAN ASSURE YOU, ITS A STATE YOU WILL NEVER WANT TO COME BACK FROM.
(Neuro-Psychiatrist, Mental Health and Sexual Health Healer, Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)