When Sexual thought become fear

While sex is one of the most pleasurable activities in the world.. Sexual thoughts can actually be very fearful for many people.

Moral, religious and taboo regarding sex can make sexual thoughts unacceptable to the subconscious, eventually leading to high fear.

It leads to extreme guilt, shame, hopelessness, and depression.
A person might label himself/herself as deviant, disgusting, or evil.

In my psychiatry practice, I have seen people suffer for years before they consult a psychiatrist. A great majority avoid seeking treatment and always keep "burning in the secret".

Sexual thoughts can make one isolated, anti-social, alone and angry. Many people leave school, their jobs or avoid travelling by local transport or even change their home because of these.

What are sexual thoughts?
Sexual thoughts are of many forms. Their core is related to sexuality, and from there on it can branch out into hundreds of different forms.

The 10 most common ones are -
1. urge to act sexually towards children or animals.

2. Intrusive sexual images of sexual organs or having sexual intercourse with random people.

3. Fear of being homosexual or lesbian - feeling "Attraction" towards same sex person.

4. Desire to expose or touch the genitals/private parts of self or "victim".

5. Attracted to inanimate things and thinking of them sexually. - dolls, mannequins, pens/pencils or even fruits.

6. Attracted to the dead, and images of performing sexual acts with a dead body.

7. Sexual thoughts about God and divine figures.

8. Sexually attracted to siblings, parents, or other relatives.

9. sexual thoughts of sexual aggression - rape or BDSM

10. sexual thoughts regarding pornographic material.

Treatment -
the basis of the treatment is to convince oneself that the thoughts are untrue.
this can be done in following ways -

1. counselling
2. medications

3. medications are initially given to calm and stop the brain from generating these thoughts and subsequently counseling is done to increase ones defenses against the same.

4. meditation helps only after the brain is calm or one is ready to accept these thoughts as intrusive and false.
Many a times only after counseling and medications.. does the brain come to a stage of accepting meditation.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

email – eksoch@gmail.com
website – www.mindmantra.in

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