Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse is one of the most traumatic experiences a person can go through.

Its not just a physical hurt, but a violation and destruction of your psychological self that leads to the highest levels of sadness, anger and fear.

As a psychiatrist every time I meet a victim of sexual abuse, it really gives me a lot of pain.

A few points about Sexual abuse or molestation -

1. The aggressor in a great majority of cases is known to the victim - family member, friend, co-worker or employee.

2. The aggressor creates a "FALSE" concept of FEAR in the mind of the victim.

3. The aggressor in most cases is very fearful of the victim telling or complaining about the act.. so tries to create a "GOOD saint like" image of himself in front of other.

4. The crime of Sexual Abuse/molestation will not be erased from memory with time.
The memory will remain fresh in the memory.
Its only through Psychiatric Treatment that the victim can be helped him/her to cope up with the traumatic memory.

5. Anger, bitterness and resentment is natural to be present.- This anger, bitterness and resentment can become very self-destructive and lead to thoughts of self-harm, cutting one-self, attempts of suicide.
One has to help the victim accept this anger, bitterness and resentment... but not direct it against herself.

6. Forgiveness is a natural act, it cannot be pushed.- In great majority of cases its impossible for the victim to develop forgiveness.
In such cases its very wrong of the parents/care-givers/friends to force him/her to develop forgiveness.
Forgiveness only comes after one again develops self-love.

7. There is no answer for the question "why did this happen to me?"
Family members many times argue, point out, criticise or philosophise about it.. but in reality there is no answer to it.

8. The only person to be blamed for the entire episode is the aggressor. One should never blame the victim for the same.

9. Essential to take actions against the aggressor. This will help decrease the anger against self, and promote generation of self-love.

10. The best way out of after effects of sexual abuse is by meeting and helping victims of the same. This way, one creates an identity and slowly they can motivate each other to achieve better heights in life.

written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)
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