Salman Khan hugged Shahrukh Khan, and it became national news.. but not many know that Baba Siddiqui is the one to be accredited for bringing them together.
Over the years I have desired to meet such people who would bring hearts together.. but I have come to meet thousands of people who have this natural tendency to "tear two people apart".
The reason for this is because of their own subconscious frustration, anger and self-resentment against the inability to maintain a long term happy and fruitful relationship.
Most such people come from homes where they have lacked parental love, have disputes with their siblings, have had bad relationships, have a bad marriage and/or are not many times capable of being good dedicated parents.
Whenever they meet and befriend someone who is in a happy relationship, there is a natural jealous, subconscious frustration and anger against it.
Under the mask of "love", their powerful subconscious frustration triggers an over-analysis of that relationship.
They use their limited knowledge of "moral values", "social rules" and limited "spiritual gyan" as marker of "happiness quotient" within that relationship.
No relationship is perfect, and finding "faults" is not easy... But these people are able to highlight those faults in a greater proportion that they really are... They swiftly find faults in the relationship structure, in the personality of the partners... and give "valid" non-psychological explanations for the same.
This makes the be-friended partner fearful about self and the relationship.
Fear is the greatest termite to love... It destroys faith and patience... It eventually provokes one to behave against natural self, and creates a major negativity in the mind.
While these "friend, family member or well-wisher" promote these unwanted thoughts and disturbances in a relationship, as a way to improve the partners personality and their relationship, it actually is meant to create a more comfortable and controllable setting for themselves.
As the befriended partner starts to move away, this "friend,family member or well-wisher" automatically feel more comfortable. They feel much more at ease, because now they can relate to a "heartbroken", "not in a relationship", restless and slightly sad individual. This gives them more "psychologically control" in the situation.
Their obsessive compulsive pursuit for control over a situation makes them blind about the emotional destruction caused.
While they wrongly call themselves as givers of "unconditional love".. they are only looking towards their "own" happiness.
Most people cannot decipher the deep psychological motives of an individual behind "unconditional help to move out of a relationship", they fail to see the true reasons that triggered their bad breakup.
They live life blaming themselves, their fear, their relationship... They live life creating resentment, anger and hatred against oneself and the other.
Sadly no one looks at the real criminal... He/she walks free, living his/her life in the same sadness, uncomplete life, looking for new targets, and portraying themself as a "giver of love".
ALWAYS TRY AND BE A CATALYST OF LOVE... SOMEONE WHO BRINGS TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER BY INCREASING THEIR COMMUNICATION AND LOVE..
DON'T BE SOMEONE WHO TRIES TO DO IT BY BRINGING ANGER, FEAR, AND DISRUPTIVE THOUGHTS... BECAUSE YOU MIGHT BE JUST PROJECTING YOUR OWN INABILITY TO HAVE A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP.
IF YOU HAVE EVER BEEN IN SUCH A RELATIONSHIP... AND TODAY YOU REALIZE YOU HAVE DESTROYED IT BECAUSE OF SOMEONE ELSE'S INTERVENTION... ITS TIME YOU CALL BACK AND AMEND WAYS... ACCEPT THAT YOU COMMITTED A MAJOR MISTAKE.
ACCEPT YOU WERE MANIPULATED BY THE THOUGHTS OF A SCARED AND FEARFUL PERSON.
THE PAST CAN NEVER BE RECREATED... BUT THE FUTURE CAN BE LIVED WITHOUT RESENTMENT, ANGER AND HATRED.
Thanks for reading, your queries are welcome @-
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist,Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)
email - eksoch@gmail.com
website - http://mindmantra.in/
personal consultation @-
address- Mind Mantra wellness clinic
Shop 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant,
opposite seawoods station,
seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai - 400706
Over the years I have desired to meet such people who would bring hearts together.. but I have come to meet thousands of people who have this natural tendency to "tear two people apart".
The reason for this is because of their own subconscious frustration, anger and self-resentment against the inability to maintain a long term happy and fruitful relationship.
Most such people come from homes where they have lacked parental love, have disputes with their siblings, have had bad relationships, have a bad marriage and/or are not many times capable of being good dedicated parents.
Whenever they meet and befriend someone who is in a happy relationship, there is a natural jealous, subconscious frustration and anger against it.
Under the mask of "love", their powerful subconscious frustration triggers an over-analysis of that relationship.
They use their limited knowledge of "moral values", "social rules" and limited "spiritual gyan" as marker of "happiness quotient" within that relationship.
No relationship is perfect, and finding "faults" is not easy... But these people are able to highlight those faults in a greater proportion that they really are... They swiftly find faults in the relationship structure, in the personality of the partners... and give "valid" non-psychological explanations for the same.
This makes the be-friended partner fearful about self and the relationship.
Fear is the greatest termite to love... It destroys faith and patience... It eventually provokes one to behave against natural self, and creates a major negativity in the mind.
While these "friend, family member or well-wisher" promote these unwanted thoughts and disturbances in a relationship, as a way to improve the partners personality and their relationship, it actually is meant to create a more comfortable and controllable setting for themselves.
As the befriended partner starts to move away, this "friend,family member or well-wisher" automatically feel more comfortable. They feel much more at ease, because now they can relate to a "heartbroken", "not in a relationship", restless and slightly sad individual. This gives them more "psychologically control" in the situation.
Their obsessive compulsive pursuit for control over a situation makes them blind about the emotional destruction caused.
While they wrongly call themselves as givers of "unconditional love".. they are only looking towards their "own" happiness.
Most people cannot decipher the deep psychological motives of an individual behind "unconditional help to move out of a relationship", they fail to see the true reasons that triggered their bad breakup.
They live life blaming themselves, their fear, their relationship... They live life creating resentment, anger and hatred against oneself and the other.
Sadly no one looks at the real criminal... He/she walks free, living his/her life in the same sadness, uncomplete life, looking for new targets, and portraying themself as a "giver of love".
ALWAYS TRY AND BE A CATALYST OF LOVE... SOMEONE WHO BRINGS TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER BY INCREASING THEIR COMMUNICATION AND LOVE..
DON'T BE SOMEONE WHO TRIES TO DO IT BY BRINGING ANGER, FEAR, AND DISRUPTIVE THOUGHTS... BECAUSE YOU MIGHT BE JUST PROJECTING YOUR OWN INABILITY TO HAVE A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP.
IF YOU HAVE EVER BEEN IN SUCH A RELATIONSHIP... AND TODAY YOU REALIZE YOU HAVE DESTROYED IT BECAUSE OF SOMEONE ELSE'S INTERVENTION... ITS TIME YOU CALL BACK AND AMEND WAYS... ACCEPT THAT YOU COMMITTED A MAJOR MISTAKE.
ACCEPT YOU WERE MANIPULATED BY THE THOUGHTS OF A SCARED AND FEARFUL PERSON.
THE PAST CAN NEVER BE RECREATED... BUT THE FUTURE CAN BE LIVED WITHOUT RESENTMENT, ANGER AND HATRED.
Thanks for reading, your queries are welcome @-
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist,Motivational Writer/Speaker and Counselor)
email - eksoch@gmail.com
website - http://mindmantra.in/
personal consultation @-
address- Mind Mantra wellness clinic
Shop 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant,
opposite seawoods station,
seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai - 400706
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