5 motivational tips that go wrong

1. Setting realistic expectations - This is like day-dreaming for most people.
They set expectations which are far from real.
I had a patient who would expect to earn 5% of his investing in share market every day. He wanted a 100% return in a month. He lost 150%.
If you are setting up expectations - keep them low and over-deliver. This will help motivate you.

2. Delegate work - Everyone wants to feel "powerful". Wants people to work for them.. But are restless and secretive about the work.
I have counselled those who couldn't delegate work because he always felt others would never meet his standards. Yet he spent the whole day thinking of the day when there will be others working for him.
Another category of people, are those who are scared that if they teach someone work, that person will perform it better and beat them at it.

3. Take criticism positively - The moment you are criticised, there is a chain reaction in your body.. it leads to extreme anger.
Forget taking criticism positively, most people cannot even take the idea of someone criticising them.

4. Be polite and good mannered - Everyone I have met till today is good mannered and polite, but there is a psychological layer of anger below their outer "sugary" coat.
Sarcasm, taunts and unwanted picking up are some examples of the anger that floats in the mind of those who "behave" as polite.
Most people understand sarcasms and taunts, and there reply in the same language.
The more the anger, the more the sarcasms and taunts.

5. Helping others makes you feel good - 99% people help someone because it fuels their ego.
You give money to a beggar, you expect him to bow to you.
You give tip to a waiter, you expect him to say thank you.
You give a raise to a junior, you expect him to show gratitude.
You give a compliment to a family member, you expect them be good to you.

Helping others only makes you feel good, when your expectations are filled. Else you feel bad, guilty and angry on yourself.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

email – eksoch@gmail.com
website – www.mindmantra.in
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