How to Break-up?

Yesterday I asked a question on how one should quit a suffocating relationship. Amazingly I got many likes, not many answers.

Love is an amazing experience. Two people get together, feel amazing.. happiness and excitement take over their minds.

Though nothing stays forever.. Soon things change.. Doesn't matter how comfortable you become, some reason or the other a couple might grow apart.

Its very difficult.. but its a reality.. RELATIONSHIPS DO FADE AWAY!!

No break-up is easy.. Every breakup is painful.. If you are partying and having fun after a Break-up, you certainly never loved.

Its that emotional pain which makes you wonder - "Will things get better?" "Should I give it another chance?" "Will I regret this decision?"
Breaking up isn't an easy decision. You need to be sure about it.

Every situation is different, there's no one-size-fits-all approach to breaking up. But there are some general "do's and don'ts" -


1. Get your mind straight - Think over what you want and why you want it. - A great majority of break-ups happen in impulsive anger.
Many a times relationship never reach a point of break-up, but anger, restlessness and negativity make the situation worst than what it seems.

2. Its your decision - The greatest mistake people make is that their decision to breakup is directly or indirectly influenced by someone else. A relative, a friend or a "so-called well wisher".
Remember your life is yours.. no one has ever lived it.. so no one can know the extent of love and companionship you share.
People just give stupid over-views based on their ego.

3. No breakup is easy - no matter whatever you say, it will hurt. It will hurt you and it will hurt your partner. Be prepared to take the hurt.

4. Be honest - don't create a drama, be straight forward. This is your last chance of honesty, post this you will be judged.
Tell the person if you have someone else in your life, if you are influenced by someone or why the relationship stopped meaning anything to you.

The other person might take time, but will get an answer for what happened.

5. Love never dies - two people who really loved each other can separate, but there will always be love between them. Love doesn't mean they have to live together and have sex. Love just means they are honest, kind, sensitive, caring and respect each other.
Love never dies.. its just transforming itself.


1. Don't text - its becoming a fashion to break up on whatsapp, facebook or by an SMS. Stop being a coward. Say it in person. You've shared a lot with each other, have respect for that. Do it face to face.

2. Don't bring a 3rd person in between - If your relationship is breaking because of a 3rd person, never bring them in-between the relationship. Its the greatest mistake you can do.
It will create uncontrollable anger in your (to-be) ex-partner, which you will never be to control. Anger will lead to vengeance. And only you will be blamed for the same.
Its the greatest childish and stupid thing you can do. Else be prepared for extreme anger to be directed onto that person.

3. Its a difficult conversation to have, make sure you think it through. In most cases, while you may be ready to move on, you end up saying vague things which might destroy the peace of the other person for ever.
Depression due to a heart-break is the worst form.. and can take years to come under control.

4. Don't defend your mistakes - If you made one.. accept them. This is your last chance, to repent. For post this day, you will be judged as "selfish".

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

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