If asked to name one word has fooled most people around the world it has to be - SORRY.
Should you say Sorry or Shouldn't your say Sorry, is a big debate which just add to the entire power of this word.
Some simple facts -
1. Its a great excuse - The great majority of times people use "sorry" because its a great excuse to avoid a bad situation.
An alcoholic patient of mine always said "sorry" and promised he wouldn't do it again.. he did it for 10yrs before his family took him to a psychiatrist.
A woman who committed adultery and was caught by her husband, said - Sorry, i didn't mean too..but the relationship was boring!!!
(she subtly escaped from the situation, with a stupid excuse.. putting all the blame on the husband, for not spicing the relationship!!!)
Should you say Sorry or Shouldn't your say Sorry, is a big debate which just add to the entire power of this word.
Some simple facts -
1. Its a great excuse - The great majority of times people use "sorry" because its a great excuse to avoid a bad situation.
An alcoholic patient of mine always said "sorry" and promised he wouldn't do it again.. he did it for 10yrs before his family took him to a psychiatrist.
A woman who committed adultery and was caught by her husband, said - Sorry, i didn't mean too..but the relationship was boring!!!
(she subtly escaped from the situation, with a stupid excuse.. putting all the blame on the husband, for not spicing the relationship!!!)
2. Its an addiction - You teach your children to not develop bad habits. But probably the one bad habit which is "socially acceptable by all" is say Sorry.
You slowly love saying "sorry". You might behave as someone who doesn't say sorry, but subconsciously you love to say it.
You are late for a meeting,
you haven't done your work,
you want to avoid meeting someone,
You want to cheat on your diet,
you want to watch the match and not go grocery shopping with the wife,
everything and anything is solvable with a - A Sorry!!!
Its such a lovable exercise, that you do it again and again.
3. Become "sorry-man" and Avoid Responsibility - You have heard of the guys who will always say "yes".. and always say "no".. But there is also the ones who will always say "sorry".
They love to avoid all responsibility by saying sorry and adding a "big story" with it.
Your mind identifies them -
The wife of a patient of mine said - I have stopped giving asking him to help me in household work, because he will have a sorry and a story. He can go to watch a match in the stadium but has a sorry for the market.
Many people use sorry to avoid responsibility. They become a "sorry-man".
4. The "sorry" You - The one person you are most accountable is Yourself.
You can fool the entire world, be angry with the entire world, but the one person you cannot fool is yourself.
You know you are doing something wrong.
A sorry gives you a cheap explanation to avoid doing the righteous.
Its said when you have to chose between that you desire and that which is right, you will always choose that you desire.
A patient of mine was having an "online affair". Her husband intervened and tried to stop her. She loved her husband and had nothing against him. But when the time came.
She said - "i'm sorry, but I cannot give upon my individuality".
They eventually divorced, because the woman found "sorry" as a great excuse to counter-act her "guilt" of choosing the desired from the right.!
5. Sorry cures it all -
One of the greatest "illusions" is to believe that a sorry, will cure any hurt caused.
A man divorced his wife after 5yrs. They had a turbulent relationship. There was a lot of physical and psychological abuse during that time.
At the time of divorce, he said - "I am sorry, hope we can now start life afresh".
The memories of the past haunted her, while he was "happy" he had asked sorry and moved ahead in life.
MIND MANTRA - A SORRY IS EFFECTIVE ONLY WHEN YOU MEAN IT AND YOU BRING A CHANGE ALONG WITH IT.
IF YOU CANNOT BRING A CHANGE, THAN ITS JUST ANOTHER GREAT EXCUSE.
ITS YOUR CHOICE TO USE IT AS AN EXCUSE OR AS A MOTIVATOR OF CHANGE.
written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)
email – eksoch@gmail.com
website – www.mindmantra.in
twitter- @sai_ki_artist
(feel free to ask your questions/feedback through email)
You slowly love saying "sorry". You might behave as someone who doesn't say sorry, but subconsciously you love to say it.
You are late for a meeting,
you haven't done your work,
you want to avoid meeting someone,
You want to cheat on your diet,
you want to watch the match and not go grocery shopping with the wife,
everything and anything is solvable with a - A Sorry!!!
Its such a lovable exercise, that you do it again and again.
3. Become "sorry-man" and Avoid Responsibility - You have heard of the guys who will always say "yes".. and always say "no".. But there is also the ones who will always say "sorry".
They love to avoid all responsibility by saying sorry and adding a "big story" with it.
Your mind identifies them -
The wife of a patient of mine said - I have stopped giving asking him to help me in household work, because he will have a sorry and a story. He can go to watch a match in the stadium but has a sorry for the market.
Many people use sorry to avoid responsibility. They become a "sorry-man".
4. The "sorry" You - The one person you are most accountable is Yourself.
You can fool the entire world, be angry with the entire world, but the one person you cannot fool is yourself.
You know you are doing something wrong.
A sorry gives you a cheap explanation to avoid doing the righteous.
Its said when you have to chose between that you desire and that which is right, you will always choose that you desire.
A patient of mine was having an "online affair". Her husband intervened and tried to stop her. She loved her husband and had nothing against him. But when the time came.
She said - "i'm sorry, but I cannot give upon my individuality".
They eventually divorced, because the woman found "sorry" as a great excuse to counter-act her "guilt" of choosing the desired from the right.!
5. Sorry cures it all -
One of the greatest "illusions" is to believe that a sorry, will cure any hurt caused.
A man divorced his wife after 5yrs. They had a turbulent relationship. There was a lot of physical and psychological abuse during that time.
At the time of divorce, he said - "I am sorry, hope we can now start life afresh".
The memories of the past haunted her, while he was "happy" he had asked sorry and moved ahead in life.
MIND MANTRA - A SORRY IS EFFECTIVE ONLY WHEN YOU MEAN IT AND YOU BRING A CHANGE ALONG WITH IT.
IF YOU CANNOT BRING A CHANGE, THAN ITS JUST ANOTHER GREAT EXCUSE.
ITS YOUR CHOICE TO USE IT AS AN EXCUSE OR AS A MOTIVATOR OF CHANGE.
written by -
Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)
email – eksoch@gmail.com
website – www.mindmantra.in
twitter- @sai_ki_artist
(feel free to ask your questions/feedback through email)
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