Why you Cannot Stop Complaining?

Everyone knows that one person who is constantly complaining. He/she seems to have a negative opinion about everything that comes to them.
They might be happy when their negatives come alive.. but its rare to find them positive about something.

People who complain those who have an inferiority complex.
There is a constant mental competition with their environment, and they try to find peace by pointing at the negatives.

Psychologically speaking they just like a wounded child in need of love, seeking attention and compassion.

They use complaining as a form of control, hoping to guilt others into giving them the attention, caring and compassion they seek.
Complainers take others for granted and feel they will always be their to listen to their complains.

No one likes to be taken for granted.. and thats why "chronic complainers" find themselves lonely.

Most complainers never realize their mistake, those who do make a change and become very loving. The great majority remains stagnated into their negative thoughts, achieving high levels of anxiety, stress, fear and sadness.

To stop complaining one has to work on his/her inner self. There is a need to build love, care, understanding and compassion.

They have to built a sense of independence, whereby they feel happy to give away all the above mentioned positive emotions.

Its difficult task as they have only learnt the habit of taking from others.. They find it difficult to give.

Complainers are at very high risk of developing addictions like alcohol, smoking, sex and drugs because it gives them a false wellbeing and false peace.

As a psychiatrist the prominent clinical disorders that I find most chronic complainers are -

a. Major Depressive Disorder
b. Generalized Anxiety Disorder
c. Resentment and anger against the past, due to a post-traumatic event(s) that has not been erased from their mind.
d. Inferiority complex

They say love can change anything. But everyone has a capacity to love. You can love a chronic complainer only till the point it doesn't break down your own mental peace.
Sometimes its essential for a chronic complainer to get break the cycle of complaining with the help of counseling, medications and family support.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)
email – eksoch@gmail.com
website – www.mindmantra.in
twitter- @sai_ki_artist
(feel free to ask your questions/feedback through email)

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