Can You be in love with 2 people at the same time?

Maria told me that she had been married for 6yrs. She loved her husband and loved her 4yr old boy. Recently she met Tony. She was completely taken over by his persona. She now wants to be with him and thinks about him a lot.
She feels she is in love with Tony...  she was confused and wanted a solution.

As a psychiatrist I have been asked this questions thousands of times - can a person be in love with 2 people at the same time... and my answer has always been yes... a person can be in love with many people at the same time.

Now you are welcome to judge me.. but my answer is based on human psychology.

If we decode Love in terms of human psychology, you will find that love has 3 basic stages.

The first stage of love  - is when 2 people are connected through infatuation, physical attraction, passion and sexual satisfaction.

The second stage of love - emotional understanding, mental process (thoughts, gossiping, social rules/regulations followed), financial needs, religious needs and goals in life are matched.
This is the most volatile stage as maximum ego clashes happen here.

The third stage of love - Involves an adjustments to the goods and bads of the partner, so that a spiritual level of intimacy and mutual respect is formed.

Most relationships are evolving from the 2nd stage onwards... Hence it gives a chance for an individual to explore on both poles of the spectrum.

Henceforth a person can be in love with more than 2 people at the same time... Just the stage of their love will be different and their needs from every relationship will be different.

written by -

Dr.Hemant Mittal (MBBS, DPM, MD(mindmantra))
(Psychiatrist, Motivational Writer and Counselor)

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