Tony had always enjoyed his life. He had it all going perfect. At 29yrs he had a great supportive family, a great bunch of friends and a wonderful job.
He enjoyed every moment of the same.
A few months after his 29th birthday, his parents started applying "psychological pressure" for marriage.
Tony had a been relationships but never had thought about marriage seriously.
The concept of arrange marriage didn't attract him too much and "love" wasn't happening.
As the pressure increased, he asked a few friends what to do... All of them where happy to "counsel" him. After talking to them, he spoke with his parents.
Finally he analysed that everyone counselled him to - find a girl who is beautiful, has a good job, never been in a relationship before, will adjust with his parents, is lesser educated than him and comes from a socio-economically lesser household than his.
Tony thought he had found the perfect recipe for marriage..... The next few months he spent time analysing every girl he knew or met, with these "essentials of marriage."
Everytime he found some flaw in the girl. If she was beautiful then she might be too proudy... if she was beautiful and had a good job she might be from a very wealthy family.. and if all conditions were met, she would be have been in a relationship before.
Tony spent 2yrs trying to figure out the perfect girl... In this time, his friends got married... everytime one of them got married, he would analyse the girl and feel that the guy had made some compromise.
Seeing all his friends posting their happy marital life photos on Facebook made him jealous. This slowly transformed to irritation.
He spent more and more time finding logic why everyone was wrong and why he was right.
Maria had been with Tony all these years... She was one of Tony's closest buddies... One of the reasons for the same was that Tony could be completely free with her. She was "totally opposite to Tony's marriage essentials".
In Tony's terms, she was average looking independent woman, from a highly rich family, who had multiple relationships in her life, drank and smoked freely and felt marriage was essential just to give your children a "Stable social identity".
Maria knew that she was opposite to Tony's essential requirements and had decided to curtail her feelings. She learnt to keep it aside, and enjoy every moment spent with Tony.
Everyone except Tony's parents wanted him to marry Maria, because they were perfect for each other.
Many tried to counsel him, but the "social conditioning" was too deeply engraved in his mind.
Tony knew that he had to satisfy the society, after all "he was a social being".. and had to be "practical" about all the "road blocks he would face in getting married".
One night after a lot of drinking, Tony felt extremely frustrated... He felt he deserved to have a happy married life like everyone else... He felt suffocated... He got into an argument with his parents and friends...
He drove to Maria's house and told her -
"We have been more than just close friends over the last few years... Everyone has noticed the great chemistry between us... Even when your ex-boyfriend blamed me for your breakup, you stuck by me and destroyed that idiots heart... I know there is a lot of love between us... But because of this social rules, we cannot be together... I feel helpless!!!"
Maria looked him into the eyes and said - "Love isn't planned, it happens"
Maria moved out of the city within a few weeks time.. Tony and Maria kept in touch, but sacrificed their love.
Tony got married, had 2 children, but always kept thinking about Maria. He was a devoted husband and father, but personally longed for Maria.
Maria moved from city to city, became a famous in her work... used her work as a shield to her emotions... Got into many relationships but never married.
Original Story by Dr.Hemant Mittal (psychiatrist and counselor)
(dedicated to millions of brave men and women, who sacrifice their love for social rules and regulations)
your comments are most welcomed.
For personal consultation -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist and Counselor)
email – eksoch@gmail.com
website – www.mindmantra.in
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai
He enjoyed every moment of the same.
A few months after his 29th birthday, his parents started applying "psychological pressure" for marriage.
Tony had a been relationships but never had thought about marriage seriously.
The concept of arrange marriage didn't attract him too much and "love" wasn't happening.
As the pressure increased, he asked a few friends what to do... All of them where happy to "counsel" him. After talking to them, he spoke with his parents.
Finally he analysed that everyone counselled him to - find a girl who is beautiful, has a good job, never been in a relationship before, will adjust with his parents, is lesser educated than him and comes from a socio-economically lesser household than his.
Tony thought he had found the perfect recipe for marriage..... The next few months he spent time analysing every girl he knew or met, with these "essentials of marriage."
Everytime he found some flaw in the girl. If she was beautiful then she might be too proudy... if she was beautiful and had a good job she might be from a very wealthy family.. and if all conditions were met, she would be have been in a relationship before.
Tony spent 2yrs trying to figure out the perfect girl... In this time, his friends got married... everytime one of them got married, he would analyse the girl and feel that the guy had made some compromise.
Seeing all his friends posting their happy marital life photos on Facebook made him jealous. This slowly transformed to irritation.
He spent more and more time finding logic why everyone was wrong and why he was right.
Maria had been with Tony all these years... She was one of Tony's closest buddies... One of the reasons for the same was that Tony could be completely free with her. She was "totally opposite to Tony's marriage essentials".
In Tony's terms, she was average looking independent woman, from a highly rich family, who had multiple relationships in her life, drank and smoked freely and felt marriage was essential just to give your children a "Stable social identity".
Maria knew that she was opposite to Tony's essential requirements and had decided to curtail her feelings. She learnt to keep it aside, and enjoy every moment spent with Tony.
Everyone except Tony's parents wanted him to marry Maria, because they were perfect for each other.
Many tried to counsel him, but the "social conditioning" was too deeply engraved in his mind.
Tony knew that he had to satisfy the society, after all "he was a social being".. and had to be "practical" about all the "road blocks he would face in getting married".
One night after a lot of drinking, Tony felt extremely frustrated... He felt he deserved to have a happy married life like everyone else... He felt suffocated... He got into an argument with his parents and friends...
He drove to Maria's house and told her -
"We have been more than just close friends over the last few years... Everyone has noticed the great chemistry between us... Even when your ex-boyfriend blamed me for your breakup, you stuck by me and destroyed that idiots heart... I know there is a lot of love between us... But because of this social rules, we cannot be together... I feel helpless!!!"
Maria looked him into the eyes and said - "Love isn't planned, it happens"
Maria moved out of the city within a few weeks time.. Tony and Maria kept in touch, but sacrificed their love.
Tony got married, had 2 children, but always kept thinking about Maria. He was a devoted husband and father, but personally longed for Maria.
Maria moved from city to city, became a famous in her work... used her work as a shield to her emotions... Got into many relationships but never married.
Original Story by Dr.Hemant Mittal (psychiatrist and counselor)
(dedicated to millions of brave men and women, who sacrifice their love for social rules and regulations)
your comments are most welcomed.
For personal consultation -
Dr.Hemant Mittal
(Psychiatrist and Counselor)
email – eksoch@gmail.com
website – www.mindmantra.in
address- 15, shreeji plaza, next to ice n spice restaurant, opposite seawoods station, seawoods (east)
Navi Mumbai
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